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my reason of happiness gone

hi..i was in a superb relationship with my best friend he used to trust me a lot..we are in same office we spent our whole time with each other..before him i had a so called b.f from facebook with whom i went out for 2 days (first tym i dated someone) ..n my best frn proposed me after our outing with my so called bf.yesterday he asked everythng whtever happnd btwn me n my tht bf..n i told everythng to my bestie,..even no big things happened btwn me n my f.b- bf.but my bestie broke up with me as he never had a gf before me.he said i lied to him i didnt tell him these things..he asked me so many times but for sake of my relationship i used to tell him tht v went there as frns only nthng happnd btwn us like gf bf.however he jus hugged me n slept wd me on same bed but v didnt do anythng wrong.nothng big happnd not even a single kiss.my bestie got upset tht my fb bf put his hand around my waist on bed whn v wr talking lying on bed.my besties said how can i trust a fb guy like this n allow him to do all these thngs but its my past y he is being tht much serious whn m true wd him in future n present.how shud i get my bf back..need solution,,..

misunderstanding

Im 22(female). I met him 3 years ago.he loves me a lot.. But due to some misunderstanding s we broke up..its always my mistake..he wants me not to tok to guys n i always talk..its been 4 months we broke up..n i miss him a lot..i cry whole night..i dont even feel like looking at other guys..he is my prince! I hv tried everything to mke him come bck in my life bt he says he want to make his career n do not want to waste his time on all this love n all. I always want to see him happy n bcoz me he is loosing in studies.. I decided to let him set free n let him make his career..bt its too difficult for me to stay away from him..i want him bck..wt do i do guys?

I can’t forget u

I really luv u more than the words could ever say..!
I met a guy on fb.. He texted me first.. I replied.. ! (My first mistake) .. We started talking.. We had shared secrets nd laughs , rainy nights nd sunny days..! I was in love..! We loved each other a lot.. ! We were so perfect together.. Until one fine day he wanted to break free.. ! He didn’t give me any explanation .. He just left.. ! And then.. I sat silently in daze for a moment..! Reality sank in nd i began to cry..!! He took away a part of me.. HIM.. ! I’m still confused whether he luvd me or not.. Whether i was just a time pass for him.. Or i had any special place in his heart.. ! He came into my life nd changed it forever…!!! He taught me everything.. About love , life , hope nd the long journey ahead.. ! He had always made me feel special in all that he had done.. Nd in all that he had said.. ! I will always miss him..! Boy.. I still love u with all my heart’s might.. Nd i’ll never forget u..!

missing my love

Hii…i wanna confess something…..or please give me genuine suggestions…..kisi ne abuse kiya to….sun lo maine gaaliyo mein p.h.d ki huyi hai…..ye sb chodo…baat thodi serious hai…i was in relationship wid a girl who is 5 years younger than me…..i noe her when she was 12…bt now she is 21….or meri age to tum nikal hi logey….bahut baar try krne pr vo ready ho gyee friendship ke liye…..or fir hum relationship mein bhi aa gye….post thodi lambi hai….dhyaan se read kr ke suggestions dena please….hamesha kucch na kucch maangti rehti thi….kbhi recharge krva do…..kbhi perfume la do kbhi kucch kbhi kucch…..bt maine kbhi dhyaan hi ni diya…mjhe to bs ye tha ki jisey itne din se chaha vo mil gyee….bht khush tha main….har roz usey uske coleg se pic kr ke fbd se delhi le jaa kr Giani’s se fruit sundae khilata tha…..bt uska ek friend tha koi jiske baare mein vo mere aage gaane gaati rehti thi…..whatsapp pr hamesha usi behc**d ke liye status daalti thi….mjhe gussa aata tha…bolti thi ki mere dil ke do part hai ek tum or ek vo uska friend… or bhi bht kucch kiya uske liye….usne bola ki family ko financially problem hai….uski fee jaani thi jo ki nov. mein jani hai 1.5 around…..vo bhi dene ko agree tha main….uskr baday pr bhi usko sb se pehle wish kiya……cake order kiya …party orgnise ki…bt vo apne friends ke sath busy rahi koi phone ni aaya…online ho kr bhi msg ni krti thi….maine gussey mein suna diya usey to ab naraaz hai…..bolti hai ki ab main friend hi rahungi bs relationship mein ni rehna…..shaadi tk ka soch chuke they….bt ab sb kuch khatam ho gya na main baat krta hu na vo…..koi ladki hi btaye ki kya ho skta hai uske dil mein…ek baar sunane pr hi bura maan gyee….bht yaad aati hai uski…darta hu ki kahi gussey mein kucch kar na baithu….suggest me something…ki what can i fo fr bring her back….

& wat abt dreams??

M 22 New Delhi

Its always tough moving on….same was for me…loved a girl, c didn’t feel dat way for me…tried to remain in her life as friends but it was not meant to be…and her behaviour also made me realize several times that i don’t matter much to her..i mean my existence in her ife. jab jarurat padti thi tbhi yaad aati thi meri warna bina kaam ke uske taraf se kbhi koi call ya msg shayad hi aaya ho….but love is love…it happens widout any reason and i was in love .
gradually hmare jhagde badhne lge and finally ek din aisa aa hi gya whn c said goodbye to me & that i don’t exist for her. i never contacted her after that and i tried to move on. isse pehle bhi kai baar mera mann krta tha ki main in sab chizon se nikal jaun kyuki most of d times i remained sad, mere mood swings hone lge the…usse ache se baat hui to mood sahi rha warna mood kharab..and ye mjhe acha nai lgta tha ki main kaisa feel kru iski chabi totally kisi aur ke paas hai. but pehle kbhi main usko chor ke move on nai kr paya tha…but is baar uski kuch baat aisi hurt kr gyi ki i decided ki ab chahe jo ho i will move on…and then i shifted to delhi and mjhe ek chng bhi mila and i did move on.
Life in delhi is not great coz i don’t hv frnds here and also am not able to give time to music bcoz of my studies, but its not bad either…m doing ok. What disturbd me actually are these dreams which i had last night and also few nights before dat. seeing her again in dreams kind of takes u a lil back and it feels strange when all those past memories start flashing in ur mind. i can control wat i think n wat i do when m awake but wat abt dreams? i hv no control over them…

i love him

f18
i dont know what is going on with my relationship. from past few months i am not able to handle this1.5 year relation. i broke up several time many girls like his pictures and comment i dont like it i fight with him that its doesnt happens on my id then why yours. he says i am very doubtful and has doubts on him. he never told me about his past and when i come to know that his ex gf or someone has liked his pic i get angry and fight with him a lot .
recently i broke up saying we dont have a future a we are from different castes and we aare not happy together. but then he adds unknown girls on his id and used to reply late to my texts. i fe agitated. and recently i just got furious and abused him and just said him to get lost . he just blocked me but i have always been there and helped him always. we are in a long distance relationship i dont know what to do i love him we got physical too. i do love him a lot but should i go back to him or should i move on ?
i have my exams going on i am crying like hell and cannot study i dont know what i should do.
please help me .

MY STORY OF HER

M23.

We did our under graduation together. We got into relationship when we were in college. Her parents were in kolkata. She used to stay in hostel for studies. All looked fine because we used to spend the whole day together. I used to drop her to hostel at 6 in evening. 2 years into relationship. I had a emergency situation in my family where i had to take care of our family business which we had leased out after my dad’s death. Now i was taking care of 3 restaurants. I had just taken over the business. I had to understand people , customers ,business. I was 20 then. I had told her that i m taking ovee the business n may not b able to attend some of classes. She infact told she would b supportive. She would call in peak hour business. I would cut the call saying i wil cl back. She used to b angry wen i said that. 2 months down the lane, she was so angry that i wasnt giving time. We used to talk over the phone for hours in night. My business place to her hostel distance was max 30 kms. But even then she mentioned that u r nt giving time. One day u wil loose me. I was now very careful and hired managers for restaurant. Infact started attending classes n giving time. Things looked fine for 2 months. She was happy that now i was giving her time. This was last semester and now everyone was deciding on career. All i thought was about my life. I had introduced my gal to my mom. She was happy too. We had business problem now that one manager had been injured at the night in restaurant and cash of 2 lakh rupees which i had given to him to b kept in locker being stolen. Cctv showed all were being captured. Cops till date dont update. This blow was a big one. I had to run around for police stationand manager in hospital. His family being staying here. Landlord concern in another restaurant. I was suddenly in need everywhere. I told her that. She said u r making up stories. And stopped talking to me. She cut my calls. I tried convincing her. Never succeeded. then trying to reach in college where she said u dont know pain of a gal staying alone in hostel. I tried to explain her. But she never understood. She told were done and parted ways. She never spoke to me after that. Even after million attempts. All i knew was i was blocked in Fb by her. Now my mom decided to sell all restaurants given good price which can stand as gud deposit for my sister marriage. We sold our business. My friend called me and told me ur gf is with some other guy in mall. I assumed it to b her bro and said same to him. But i called his bro and asked where r u.. He said kolkata. I reached her hostel and waited there. She came with one more classmate of ours. I said hi to both. And he left, i asked where had u been. She told me he is my new bf. I have moved on. I called him over the phone, and asked him what was happening. He told dont disturb us. We r in relationship . i cried. I wept. Which had no value for her. Then i started working for one top companies paying me gud salary. After 6 months she called and asked to meet. She told i wanted to meet as friends. I met her. She told me she broke up with him. I dint speak anythimg abt her past. I only ordered food and then dropped her back to her room. While leaving i asked her where is she now ?? She told me i m with friend. I left. She changed her number. Never shared with me. 2 years later. I.e now she called me and says she wants to be friends with me. I never got into relationship after her. Now my career is set, i still love her. I got a call 2 days back saying she wants to b friends with me. She also confessed she was in a living relationship and now infact she is looking for coming back to me. I Still love her. But i m nt able to accept. May b bec now i know she only wants time and cant support in difficult times or may b she has been in living relationship for 2 years and broke up.

Love..Oh really!

Long confession! Isn’t it? Sorry…
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Which moment of your life you wish it would never end?
Which is the best time in your life?
Which moment you will love to live again if you get a chance?
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Well in my case, i have a single answer for all these questions:
“The moment i had spent with her”
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The day was 13 August, 2013. It was a shiny morning of Friday but it was going to be a special day for me. I was going to meet her for the first time after 2 months of relationship (And 7 months of talking!). Yes, we were in a long distance relationship so it couldn’t possible for us to meet every now and then. (I went to her place which is about 600 kms away from mine)
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It was a 10 O’clock in the morning. I reached at the place at where we decided to meet and was waiting for her to come. Every second was passing like a year. I couldn’t wait to see her beautiful face. Some depressing thoughts were hovering through my mind that she would like me or not…Do I look enough better for her…and too many. The thought of imagining her beautiful face and little nervousness due to this fear were splitting in my mind simultaneously.
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And I saw her coming. I could see her beautiful smiling face from a far distance. She was riding on her activa and finally stopped at me. Oh God! How one could be this much beautiful? She was with beautiful smile on her, which some months before made me fall in love with her. She was wearing a pink top which I loved her the most. My eyes were continuously starring her. I was unable to move my eyes off from her pretty face, cute smile and bright-beautiful eyes. She has the most beautiful smile on this universe, I can bet! That’s the reason why I always feared that someone else might fall for her smile like I did. She was looking more attractive as she was blushing. I just wanted to fall for her again and again.
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‘sorry nishu, thoda jyada wait karwaya!’ her words broke my starring towards her.
‘Tum ek ghante baad aati to bhi main yahi milta’ I said.
‘Accha!’ And she laughed.
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I couldn’t stop myself as she came near me. I held her with my arms. We did a tight hug as I imagined before. It was decided that whenever we would meet for the first time we would hug eachother for a while.
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You know, some moments are not easy to describe in words. You just feel them. Live them and store them in one deep corner of heart as eternal memories. And believe me all the time we spent was all about such moments together. She was simple, free minded and soul-mate type girl. She used to share everything with me, so do I. We talked, we cared, we laughed, we cried, we fought, all together. Don’t know why, I felt everything was going to be alright and my life was becoming perfect. You know this was my first relationship and I always feel that I should have someone with me all the time and there she was! When I am with her I feel it is so easy to be happy.
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It’s not that we never fought. Like others, We used to fight every now and then and sometimes she used to break up, too but then we usually started talking by the time of hour or two (Yes, that’s what we called ‘break up’ !) Actually the thing was that we couldn’t resist ourselves by talking with each other and I think that was the best thing in our relationship. She used to take care of me like a child. I always felt that it’s ok to be careless because i was having her with me all the time.
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Life was going great but I didn’t know that one fight was going to change my life. We started fighting almost every day with no reason. One day, I received a call after a fight saying that she wanted a break up and she needed some time. My heart skipped a beat for a while. Later I agreed with her knowing that it was just going to be a matter of some hours. (That’s my mistake) But I was wrong this time. She got fed up and started ignoring me. From that day everything started changing. It was a day of 27th june of this year. I thought everything would be fine after some time but It didn’t. She got a job and started enjoying with her new colleagues/friends and here she moved on. Someone special turned out to a known stranger unexpectedly. Ok let’s stop…I don’t want to make you feel bored with this sad part.
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Guys, I just wanted to tell you that True Love is a hardest thing to find. Not everyone in this world is lucky enough to have it and those who have, sometimes don’t value it as much as they should. They take it for granted. And we did that too. That’s the reason we fought a lot most of the times over the things that didn’t really matter. We wasted a lot of the time arguing over the things which none of us really care about. We didn’t know that we have limited time with each other. Otherwise we would have said sorry and resolved our issues much more quickly than we used to. We would have spent more quality time together, would have created more beautiful memories. If we would have valued time, we would have enjoyed every small thing much more than we did but we chose to do otherwise, like many other couples in this world. And one day they regret it like I am regretting it now.
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Its funny how we thank everyone in this world for every small favor that they do for us but we never thank our partner for all that they do. I just wanted to thanks her. Thanks for coming in my life. Thanks for making me special, Thanks for taking care of me like a child and lastly Thanks for loving me.
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Isn’t It funny that how we don’t realize the value of Love unless it’s gone? Today I have so many things to tell but it’s now worthless because i don’t have her. Sometimes I scroll through contact list and just stop at her name but silently put the phone away knowing that I lose a right over her. Still I wonder if somewhere far away, she does the same? 🙂
-Nishit

Damn frustrating

F24
he was ma senior in college.i was disturbed cz of my previous reltns he accepted me and told i will take care till we both will b able to take stand for future.he used to treat me as a baby bt after he graduatn we were in long distance he went 4 prepartn of civil services.started to give less time as i used to wait whole day in night he used to call.jhagade hote the par manane k liye kch v krta tha bs milne k liye aaya ek baar bs mjhe bht gussa aata tha baht so i brokeup qki koi matlab nhi tha fir m ghar ja rhi thi us din aaya sabke samne hath per jode bola maaf krdo i ll make everything work mere ghar tak aaya pura ek din mere ghar k samne park h betha rha..bt i got hurt so i told my family problem jo krna h kro mjhe kch nhi lena dena.i left him der headed to home.dat day onwards i am working he is disturbing me yar..pura din jo v accha tha uske msg likhte rhta h jo v naam bulata tha wo sab msg krta h.i talked to ex he did not do any such things when i left him.wo bataye wo blackmail kr rha h uske paas mt jaao..and yar mjhe MBA krna h bht aage jana h clg topper rhi hu aur uski koi job tk nhi h.now he is disracted 4m his studies so i complained to his family that i will nt marry him so y he is doing so..den he cut his wrist saying sorry sorry begging i dont feel 4 him cz of him i blocked him 4m gmail fb everywhere cz mjhe mere parents ki sochna h..baht aage jaana h and mere parents kch na kch accha hi dhudenge mere liye..wo bolta h plzz ek baar mjhe dekho ek baar baat kro mjhe hug kro mjhe tmhari gaudi m head rkhna h he sucks yaar..now my ex support me in everything m happy whether he will die or whatever from ma side go to hell after insulting he is telling bahut punishment ho gayi na betu ab toh maaf krdo wapas ajao..arre yar m feel nhi krti ab tak nhi gayi to q jaungi..m happy..simplei told if u love me dont msg me u ll forget me then he told ohh ryt tm bhul gayi to m bullshit hi lguga na tmhe kch accha yad nhi sb bura dekh rhi ho toh q smjhogi m kese feel krta tha tmhare liye kya kya sochta tha dono k liye..so i told toh batana tha tab now i m nt interested..kya kru yar m fed up with this guy..pics bheje bt i dont feel..blackmailer kahin ka..bs yhi kehta rhta h i will make everything work plzz mjhe smjho ek baar mere liye feel kro..m happy with my ex and new friends…

loneliness n all

22 m delhi
I don’t know why but sometimes I really feel alone. There are moments when I have a lot to talk but no one to talk to & it kinds of make me feel a bit low. 🙁 I had a girl in my lyf; c was not my gf..we were friends but I loved her and c didn’t feel that way for me..gradually dis disturbed our friendship and now we r not even in touch. On d last day jb hmari baat hui c said 1 thing to me on WhatsApp dat “u don’t exist for me.” This was d gal for whom I had always been thr, helping her,caring for her. That day I was really hurt n I never msgd or called her after dat. That day I also realised one thing, no matter how much u love smone, no matter how much u care for them, people just don’t understand,they don’t even care. It’s a selfish world…my experiences with friendship hv been no different. But now I hv matured alot ,learnt a lot , I expect nothing from ppl but even after cmng to terms with d reality, I do feel lonely…afterall m a human..