I got married in 2020 through an arranged setup. Initially, things were fine, despite unnecessary demands from my in-laws, such as personally serving them. I had been married for only three days when my ex-mother-in-law and ex-husband asked for my fixed deposits and insisted I get jewelry from my mother.
Despite my father already providing a significant amount for the wedding, my husband still demanded furniture, a bed, and other items. I informed my husband about my family’s financial situation. He didn’t say much, but my in-laws had already spoken to my parents. My mother was willing to give them everything, even though I objected.
A week later, I discovered that my ex-husband had shared all our private conversations, including personal matters, with his parents. Things that were meant to remain between us were completely exposed. At over 30 years old, he behaved immaturely, spending the entire day with his mother despite being newly married.
I returned to my parents’ home, and his parents called, blaming me for not wanting a child and even claiming I was infertile. I had PCOS and had informed my husband before marriage. I had worked on myself and was in good health at the time. I had merely requested a year before planning for a child, but his mother insisted on having one immediately.
The truth was that we couldn’t consummate the marriage due to issues on his part. I asked him to keep the matter private, but he blamed me entirely and involved his parents.
That was the final straw. I decided to get divorced. I didn’t want a single penny from him and couldn’t even stand his face by then. We parted with mutual consent.
After the divorce, I struggled emotionally for two years, wondering if something was wrong with me. However, I eventually found solace in spirituality, which brought me peace. I successfully rid my life of thoughts about him and everything related to that chapter. I decided to live alone for the rest of my life.
Now, my family suggests I should remarry, as they worry I’ll be alone after my parents. However, my trust in men-especially their mothers-is very low. Being a divorcée, my first preference would be another divorcé, as someone with a similar experience might understand me better.
Should I consider settling down again or convince my family to let me live alone?
I am genuinely confused.
once the trust is broken it isn’t easy to get back there. but staying alone without a person who loves and takes cares of u for a life time is what every person needs. ur parents too will be having issues thinking about u. better think about getting married again for ur better future and ur parents happiness