A year-long arranged marriage with my husband, who was once all fairy-tale and lovable but turned really toxic right after our wedding. He verbally, emotionally, and mentally abuses me once a month. He wished or wanted to live a peaceful life, but oh man, he was such an asshole to me. I loved my husband so much that he meant everything to me-more than my parents. But he slowly isolated me from everyone else and finally complained to all my relatives who liked me, saying that I was a bad person for sucking the life out of him and ruining his life. I actually believed him-that I was a bad person somehow.
I did everything for him. I married him even though he had less money because I truly wanted to be a wife who supports her husband when he has nothing and holds his hand when he has everything. I married him because we had both grown up with similarly rough lives, and I thought he would understand my pain. But he turned out to be, or revealed himself to be, deeply insecure and vengeful, harassing both his family and mine.
2024 was a tough year because I did everything I could to make things work, and I got completely drained. He said he loved me, but later, when he publicly accused me of not “satisfying” him sexually (which I believed was the only good thing between us), my world shattered. I knew that was a lie. He has both a superiority and an inferiority complex, which really confuses me.
I am in the middle of a divorce, yet he still says he wants to live with me because he is a sacrificing person. I just can’t find peace knowing that I saved all my love for one person my whole life, only to be betrayed, insulted, shamed, and backstabbed-and I still can’t get over him. I still love him, but I don’t want him. I am actually grateful that we do not have kids. The main reason I am divorcing him is that I don’t want my future children to suffer in such a toxic environment just because I want him.
I hear people say that time heals, that I should distract myself, that I am doing a great job leaving him, etc. But I just can’t live without him. I can’t do anything right now. I am lost. I am afraid I’ll be alone forever. What should I do?
Question: Is my decision right?
Option 1: Yes, go on with my life.
Option 2: No, go back to him and work things out.
1.நீங்கள் எடுத்த முடிவு சரியானது என்று எனக்குத் தோன்றுகிறது.
2. நீங்கள் தீர்க்கமான முடிவை எடுங்கள் அல்லது சந்தேகமான முடிவை எடுத்தால் நீங்கள் குழப்பமாக இருக்கிறீர்கள் என்று தான் அர்த்தம் ஆகையால் நீங்கள் செய்வது தவறாகவே இருந்தாலும் அது சரியானதாக மாற்ற முயற்சி செய்யுங்கள்.
3. இன்றாவது பேச்சுவாக்கில் ஆவது நான் உன்னை இழந்திருக்கிறேன் நீ இல்லாமல் என்னால் வாழ முடியாது என்று எப்போதாவது உங்களிடம் சொல்லி இருக்கிறாரா உங்களைப் பற்றி நினைவுகளை உங்களுக்கு நினைவுபடுத்தி கூறி இருக்கிறாரா நீங்கள் இல்லாத தருணங்கள் எனக்கு நரகமாக இருக்கிறது என்று உங்களிடம் எப்போது கூறி இருக்கிறாரா.
இது போன்ற வார்த்தைகள் எல்லாம் ஒருவர் சொல்லி வருவது அல்ல மாறாக அவர்கள் உள்ளத்தில் தோன்றும் பொழுது கண்டிப்பாக உங்களிடம் ஒரு முறையாவது வெளிப்படுத்துவார்கள்.
காமம் வேறு காதல் வேறு காதல் இருந்தால் மட்டும் காமம் சுகமாக இருக்கும் காமம் மட்டும் வேண்டுபவருக்கு உடல் ரணங்கள் மட்டுமே மிஞ்சும்.
இப்பொழுது நீங்கள் சொல்லுங்கள் உங்களுடைய அவர் கழித்த நாட்கள் எப்படி என்று.
நான் மீண்டும் உங்களுக்கு கருத்தை பகிர்வேன்
1. I think the decision you have made is right.
2. If you make a decisive decision or if you make a doubtful decision, it means that you are confused, so even if what you are doing is wrong, try to make it right.
3. In today’s conversation, has he ever told you that I have lost you, I cannot live without you, has he ever reminded you of your memories, has he ever told you that the moments without you are hell for me?
Such words are not just said by someone, but when they appear in their hearts, they will definitely express them to you at least once.
Lust is different from love, lust is different from love, lust is only comfortable, only physical pains are left for the one who wants lust.
Now tell me how your days were.
I will share my opinion with you again