A Girl Revealed Shocking Truth About Actor Boys

Please read & help me. Sorry for long. But you will learn about narcissistic Abuse.

1. I am a simple introverted girl who have shifted from rural area to engineering college for studies. I belong to a very conservative family and my father is very strict and full of anger issues. So, in my home, I was not allowed to talk to any man and I am not exposed to even friends. I used to stay at home only. So, when I went to college, it was kind of very difficult for me to make friends because I never knew how to make friends, how to talk to people.

But as I was alone, I wanted someone to be there for me. It is a four-year-long course and girls used to stay in big groups friendships and some girls got boyfriends. So, I was always alone. Although loneliness is not a problem for me because I was very used to it. But then lockdown happened and I got Covid positive. My health was very heavily effected so I stopped attending online classes.

2. But then there comes a man in college who acted like a very good person. He was very helpful and he was always showing care (only fake talks). I was blinded by his words and I really thought that he is a very nice person. I don’t use to attend classes, assignments, and tests. Piyush (fake name) was a stranger. I don’t know from where, he came to my chat box and helped me 2-3 times (mark it : Only 2-3 times) with tests, assignments, projects, etc. what help?

He forwarded the copied assignments in my WhatsApp chat. used to be sick all the time so I needed someone’s help. And as I said, due to confidence issues, it’s very difficult for me to ask for help. I feel vulnerable telling my problems to anyone. He was also in problem at that time. He had lost his grandma and he showed how badly he is affected. He engaged me in his conversation due to this thing. Btw this particular reason was used so many times by him to make me emotional and basically manipulate me.

3. In 5th semester after lockdown, when we returned back to college, he troubled me so much to meet outside campus. But I refused because I never went outside campus with any man. After my refusal, he started manipulating me that “I am an ungrateful person. How he has helped me so many times but still I am showing selfishness and all. I am a bad and selfish friend, only used him (that forwarding assignments). I can not support my friend in bad phases”.

It turned into a major fight. Mind it that it was not a general ‘asking out for a date by a man. I know how men ask for dates. It has to be respectful and should show interest rather than manipulation. Still, I was very grateful to him for very little help he had done. My gratefulness didn’t let me hit this friendship otherwise I would have blocked him. He Apologized and I forgave him.

4.In 6th semester, he started sitting and being with me in class. He always sit with me forcibly even after telling him to just sit with his friends. I used to sit with similar kind off introvert 2 girls. I could not insult or fight with him among all. I am naturally not a rude person. He showed good behavior (acting) so we became friends. I also had in my mind that I should be able to get out of my introverted zone so I needed friends. But he started toxic manipulation again. I could list all his toxic lines but that would take a full day to write. I was innocent so I ignored them for the first few weeks. Many times, I could not even figure out his intentions. I never really knew such good acting can be done.

5. He used to tell me “All others are bad. Only he is good”. He had a fake story of everyone to prove they are bad so that I don’t talk to anyone. He used to do very good acting. First, he used to call me to tell me about, he is very effected because there was some girl who died of cancer in my college. He called me to talk about that because he is depressed thinking about grand ma. Sometimes he called me because of his grandmother. Sometimes he called me because he was feeling very low due to home responsibilities and all these things.

And then, during these talking sessions, he starts manipulating me. I remember he used to tell me that, “The college boys will eat you. You are very innocent. I feel very bad for you. When I see you struggling alone, I feel like I am struggling. I genuinely care for you because I understand you. Everyone wants to only bully the introvert people, but I would always want good for you.” He got me into trap of believing that he is only there for me. I really believed him for 1-2 months.

But even he never helped me with real stuff. I remember he accompanied me forcibly for document submission and becoz of too much summer dhoop, he returned to his home, leaving me alone for 2 hours. Nobody used to help me in college days. I always did everything from assignments to medicines, everything alone. 6. Whenever I tried to ask for help from anyone else, he was like “Will you beg in front of them. Are you a beggar?” He used to say “you have backlogs. You are in a bad phase only because you didn’t have good friends. Just stay with me, everything will be clear”. This is clear manipulation. He used to make me feel bad about my backlogs.

He once told me “Koi aur itne backs wale friend ko fek deta” (If there would be some other friend in his place, then he would have thrown me like garbage). It was to hit my self esteem . Although the backlogs were only because of health issues and not because of lack of academic potential. I was always better student since childhood.

7. In class also, if I am talking to my friend, he would insult me and sometimes correct me too “you should not be so open to others”.

8. He also tried to control me from talking to others. Whenever I talk to any girl or boy in class, he would cook some story to defame them “these people have bad intentions” and I used to believe him that time. I remember I stopped to some really genuine people becoz of him.

9. He also tried to control me other ways. Like once he started asking me to show bank balance because I used to stay in AC room. And once he told me to install some software in laptop so he can submit my missed assignments from his Laptop. (Fake concern to control my laptop).

10. He started lashing out on me if I hang out even with my female roommates.

11. He once created a fake drama. His female friend, Akshitha is sick (lie) and so he needed someone to go with them to the hospital. So I agreed but then I realized that she is not coming because her stomach is aching (fake excuse). He did all these so I could go with him alone. And it’s such creepy and upset behavior on road. We used to go to the college gate to eat panipuri with friends. All the friends were day scholars so this is not my nature to fight with anyone harshly on road. I just ran away to my hostel.

They used to stop there only. And I had to return to the college hostel. He was also a day scholar but he used to come with me. Whenever I tried to stop him, he was like “you don’t like walking me with you. I am just walking. Am I an untouchable or Dalit? You don’t have polite behavior. You think of yourself as superior ” I used to get stunned after that. And he continues walking (following) me.

12. It was very chaotic to talk to him. He never used to take accountability of his actions. Whenever I confronted him, he would twist his sentences and tell again that he helped me so much. Again that forwarding assignments, copied ones.

13. But! Boundaries were crossed when he tried to start touching me while walking or talking. He would touch me while walking. It was not general touch of friends. To give you an example, he literally hold my hand out of blue. He would just grab my shoulder while walking. Once he was like “You walked so much today, your legs must be paining” and then he moved on to touch my legs. “Main daba deta hun”. I couldn’t say anything just to prevent any scene in public. But I told him multiple times to stop but he did not listen.

14. After all these, I blocked him. He again came up with another drama that he like me that’s why he is doing all toxic things. Mark it that he was only friend, never proposed me, never went had any such conversation. I told him no… But then he told me “we are in relationship”. Like what ???? From where this thing came out of nowhere. He started acting very entitled of me. Like the only reason he owe me is because he forwarded some copied assignments during Covid.

15. When I rejected his proposal once, he told me You will chase me once I get a good job”. Only if he would know, that a good woman will die for respect and not money.

16. One friend of our group got married so she gave party. 5 people were there. But then he told his friends that “I went with him alone” but it never really happened. There is not a single proof of all these. When his friend was teasing me, and I get infuriated, then he said “I was only kidding about that”. What nonsense? Even his friends were shocked.

17. On his birthday also, he started manipulating me about how he had no friends and he needs to celebrate. He called me to his cake cutting. I was not agreeing to go there so he kept waiting for 1 hour and made his friends wait too. Yes, he was so stubborn to wait for more than an hour. If I refused to go, he would have waited till night. His friends also started calling me. Then I was forced to go there (I took roomate with me). And then he said he will give party for all. I decided to go becoz it was big group. But he took the frnds group to other restaurant and me and my roomate to other. What the fuck. I thought we all are coming to same place. When I reach the mall food court, I got to know they are in different restaurant. What the hell! Who gives party like this.

18. Forced label: He also told his friends, that I am his girlfriend (nothing like relationship was between us, nothing, just forced entitlement, not even own sided love or care, it was only control). Some people think I am his girlfriend. It is really traumatizing. The irony: he never did what actual lovers do. Like caring, talking about dreams and hobbies, planning cute dates, chocolates roses, understanding and supporting me.

19. Then, after 3 months, I was convinced of how bad a person he is. Especially the toxicity of spitting about other people, controlling and manipulations all the time. He also wanted me as a girlfriend but it was not at all liking or love. He only wanted me for show off purpose.

20. We had cultural fest in college. This is after I blocked him. I went with my roommates. Similarly as he do class and in college roads, he did the same in Fest also. I was sitting with my roommates and was totally ignoring him. Just to show his friends, he forcibly come near me. He touched my arms also. And tried to stand near me. But then I ran away from there. When we went back, he called me the other day and started lashing out on me that I have insulted him and humiliated him in front of his friends.

He again started lying and manipulating that ” My friend was asking me.” That I have insulted him by not taking pictures with him.. It totally show his true character that he was only using me for show off purpose.

21. On our last day of college, we had photo session. We all gathered to take photos. He again tried to stand close to me… he literally do like he will stand over my body, forcibly. And I knew he will forcibly sit with me to take photo. So I ran away again. And I was not in my college department photo.

22. Ending: Guess what he kept messaging me for about 3 weeks and his last msg is also about manipulation. “After my grandma’s death, I am alone. I need help & support.” The same fake drama. And then “you are so selfish”. That is last msg in his chat. He started posting pictures with another girl just after 1 month with caption “my fav hooman” and messaging me also… And you know what, we all got placement jobs but he got thrown out of company within 3 months.

23. Society judgement: One man come to me and said “tm piyush ka kat di na, tm bhi katti ho”. ( English translation: you also ditch boys). They don’t know about the abuse.

24. Also, I am scared of I ever had gone out with him alone. (Which he tried so much), may be would have done more criminal things.

25. He abused another girl In the last year, I met a girl who was also very introverted and had no friends. She told me that she also had the same experience with this man.

This man texted every girl like a hit-and-trial method. That girl had divorced parents and abusive father, so she also did not have any experience of a good man in her life. And Piyush did exactly the same things with her. Exactly the same things. All the manipulation and everything. And when she told me all of these and along with therapy, I understood that it was not my fault. He was a very wrong person to even trust.

26. Awareness of Narcissism: I have taken therapy worth 20K. The therapist made me aware of narcissist personality disorders in detail. He had all the triats of narcissism. And why I tolerated all these for months because I had very controlling strict, conservative, emotionally unavailable father. (He deserves a whole another post).

27. My problem: the problem is that I am very traumatized by this incident. After this, since 3+ years, I am totally scared to talk to boys and even “hi” from any man scares me. If they try to talk, I think they are lying. I purposely act rude to repel them. Many boys have asked me out but I never talk to anyone becoz i think even without any relationship, they will feel entitled to control me and don’t even love me.

28. Help please: I don’t have any experience or exposure to boys due to strict family. I am totally single, never been to date, and virgin. But boys are so good in acting & mind games.. I don’t know how to judge boys. My astrologer also told me I am unlucky in love and all. I need to marry but I am very scared if again some narcissist will come again. I am planning to stay single out of fear only.

Question: Do you know about Narcissistic abuse and manipulation?

Option 1: Yes

Option 2: No