My husband and I are both 29 and have been married for two years. We are both professionally qualified and work in the UK. Lately, I’ve been feeling a strange tension from my in-laws because of my job. I recently discovered that my husband took out a loan for the home where his family lives, which he haven’t told me before our marriage.
On top of that, he has been secretly spending a lot on luxury items, cars, and even financing marriage and jewelry expenses for himself and his brother over the years. When I confronted him about hiding this aspect of his family’s lifestyle during our marriage discussions, he told me it was his responsibility toward them which I understand. But I still don’t feel entirely comfortable with. He has only a few lakhs with him, yet his family continues to demand more from him.
The issue gets worse when, after spending money on myself for things like shopping or self-care, my husband criticizes me for being “spoiled” and spending too much. Recently, during a visit to his family’s house, I didn’t bring any gifts out of frustration. His mother taunted me for it, and in the heat of the moment, I responded by saying we were tight on money because of the responsibilities my husband has taken on and I said I’m saving for our future.
This led to a quarrel between my husband and me because he didn’t like how I spoke to his mother. I also questioned why his family, despite earning so much from their business, still expects financial support from my husband. Every time I spend money on myself or my parents, my in-laws seem to get jealous or criticize me.
I’m starting to lose interest in engaging with his family, and sometimes I feel disconnected from my husband too. Despite working hard and earning well, we are struggling to improve our standard of living because of his family’s financial demands. Life in the UK is already challenging, and I feel like I’ve had to deal with a lot of physical and mental stress. What should I do in this situation to find more peace and improve my relationship with my husband and his family?
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finding peace with them might be not an easy task. they will nly be good to u if u obey their orders. not spending on urself.bringing something back every time u visit ur parents home. supporting them financially. not question them. just be a prisoner and everything will be good.
a husband who supports only his family bt not his wife. where can u find peace?
they need u only for financial support?