My boyfriend and I were in a relationship from December 2021 to September 2024. He broke up with me in September 2024 and blocked me everywhere. I am working in a private organization, and he is also working. We earn a decent amount. We had a very good relationship during that time, and he was a very funny and loving person. We were physically intimate one time. I am an only child and have no father. He convinced me to be in a relationship with him with the promise of marriage and based on his family’s beliefs.
As someone who has felt lonely since childhood, I dreamt of having a good and loving husband and also a family that would take care of me. He never scolded me verbally or physically abused me. He never did those things. But suddenly, one day, he came to me and said he wanted a breakup. The reason he gave was that if he did a love marriage, he would die, as his parents wouldn’t accept it, so he wanted to end it.
But I wasn’t ready to accept it. On August 18, he said this, but I convinced him daily and dragged it until September 23. That day, he spoke to me very harshly and blocked me. I suffered a lot after that. I had his LinkedIn email ID and password, but during the relationship, I didn’t try to access any of his platforms other than LinkedIn. After the breakup, I couldn’t believe he left me. “How did this happen?” That was the question always on my mind.
So I logged into his Instagram. He had a fake ID on it. He talked to many girls and also had one more fake Instagram ID and two fake Facebook IDs. I opened an Instagram account and sent him a request, which he accepted, and he talked to me. After five months of the breakup, I found out many things. He loved another girl from May 2024, but he initiated the breakup with me only in August 2024.
He himself told me he loved a girl who is abroad for her master’s studies and that he had been in a relationship with her for 7 years. After hearing this, I was devastated. Then why did he cheat and betray me for 3 years? I went straight to his current girlfriend’s Instagram account and asked her. She said they had only been in a relationship since May. He didn’t tell her about me, and he didn’t tell me about her. He used me in all ways.
Even the day before he blocked me, he asked me for money, and I gave it to him. But he cheated on me. Through his current girlfriend, I learned another shocking thing. Back in 2021, before he was with me, he was in another relationship. He also manipulated that girl to sleep with him with the promise of marriage, and after that, he refused to marry her. She is also a fatherless girl, and that girl was the current girlfriend’s sister.
After knowing this, his current girlfriend still accepted to marry him. But after I talked to her, she refused to marry him, although sometimes she still wants to. I can’t digest the fact that he betrayed me and also cheated on another girl before me and I don’t even know how many more girls there were. During our relationship, he didn’t spend money. I was the one who always spent money on him, even for outings and food.
Through his fake ID, back in 2022, he talked to many boys and asked them for money by pretending to be a girl. I am stuck in this betrayal trauma. What should I do now?