I met her in Amsterdam while heading to Canada for the first time in 2019. I’m from Hyderabad (29M), and she’s from Gujarat (24F). We were in the same college and course, and the way we met felt like something out of a movie back then. It was my first time being close to a girl, and I was instantly attracted to her, though I never confessed my feelings. Later, I found out she had a boyfriend, so I decided to be a “good friend.”
She quickly caught on that I was emotionally attached and took advantage of it. She used my kindness, care, and time in every way possible. My friends warned me, but I ignored them I was completely blinded by her. Over time, I began to realize her true intentions. She was only keeping me around to use me while she finished her studies. She never even tried to study, spending every moment working under the table for cash.
I confronted her, but she emotionally manipulated me every single time, blaming me for “misunderstanding” her and turning everything around so that I’d end up apologizing. Things took a turn for the worse when, at her request, I switched courses in the second year just to stay close to her. She even convinced my mother to support this disastrous decision by emotionally blackmailing us about our future.
She didn’t study a single day in that course either! I wrote her exams, did her assignments, and was emotionally blackmailed every time I tried to distance myself. I cried constantly, trapped in her manipulative grip. I thought I’d finally be free when she got married to her boyfriend back home. But no, things only got worse. In 2021, during our final semester, she failed her project after I did all the work because she was overconfident and careless.
She tried to cheat but got caught by the lecturer. When I was ready to move to another province to start my career, she blamed me for everything. And then the unthinkable happened she convinced me to get physical with her. Afterward, she immediately flipped the story, accusing me of forcing her, and blackmailing me with messages. I couldn’t believe what was happening.
I ran to a friend’s house in Toronto, trying to escape, but she kept sending threatening messages, forcing me to return to Montreal to “help her.” She dragged me into a toxic physical relationship, telling me she loved me and needed me, even while her husband was around. I was falling for her manipulation again, despite knowing it was all wrong. She even admitted that she was using me to get what she wasn’t getting from her husband sex.
I was emotionally shattered, killing myself from the inside, and every time I tried to leave, she’d argue, manipulate, and drag me back into her twisted web. In 2022, when her husband returned, I saw my chance to escape. I blocked her in June, but in late July, she reached out, claiming to be pregnant. She cried, and like a fool, I believed her again. She refused to keep the baby, and when I insisted I’d be there for her, she suddenly confessed it wasn’t mine it was her husband’s.
Then, without skipping a beat, she flipped the story again, claiming it was mine. I was mentally wrecked, caught in her relentless lies and emotional torture. She continued to manipulate me, even trying to get me to move in with her and her husband! I refused and fled to a far western province, changing my number, but she emotionally blackmailed me again, accusing me of abandoning her during her abortion. I was being suffocated by her every action.
This nightmare dragged on till October 2023, when I finally cut all ties. But one day, I made the mistake of reading our old messages and discovered the truth she’d been lying about everything, including the abortion. After our last time together, I begged for answers, but she had been out travelling with her husband, posting happy photos while completely ignoring me. She had blocked me without a single explanation.
Now, in 2024, I reached out one last time, hoping for closure. She spun the same web of lies claiming she’s getting a divorce after receiving her PR and planning to live alone. But just when I thought she might finally be genuine, a friend sent me a photo from her husband’s Facebook page there they were, together, happy, and recently on vacation. When I confronted her, she avoided every question, dodged my pain, and blocked me without a word.
In this entire process, I lost my mind, my career, my peace. I’m consumed by guilt over the baby, isolated from everyone, and I’ve even tried to end my life multiple times. My question is how can someone be so cold hearted, using me for money, career, and sex? I could have moved on from anything, but trapping me in a fake abortion, making me believe it was my child, is beyond forgiveness.
She’ll definitely come back when she needs something else from me. What should I do? I feel lucky I didn’t marry her, but I’m stuck my mental health won’t let me move on until I get answers. Please, someone, help me.