Here is my story. For the last two years, we have tried many times to arrange meetings with my parents, but unfortunately, they are not ready for me to marry a lower caste boy. I am in love with a man, and we have been in a relationship for the last three years. Before we fell in love, we were friends. He is a kind man with his own small business. My parents have issues with his caste, his lack of an MNC job, and the fact that he is not from our area.
They also have problems with me wanting a love marriage, as this is the first time it has happened in our family. They have left me to handle everything on my own. They told me, “Get out of here (home) and go with him. Have a temple marriage.” In the end, my boyfriend and I somehow managed to plan our marriage with his parents’ support. I communicated this to my parents in advance, but they did not show any interest at that time.
Now, my parents are giving me emotional dialogues, saying my kundli does not match at all. They suggest postponing the marriage for six months because my brother is unable to take leave from work. They repeatedly claim that this marriage will not be successful and say I have ruined their respect in society. They say they should not have educated me. I feel guilty for all the pain they are experiencing.
I love them a lot, but I feel I have no other option. I am just asking them to support me. Am I doing something wrong? It has been more than two years in this emotional situation, and my mental health is deteriorating.
Seems like a case of toxic parent. Move on and get married. You deserve happiness. Your parents will follow you, give them some time.