It was an arranged marriage. We rarely spoke before tying the knot. He often talked about a woman in his office whose husband had passed away and who had a child. He praised her constantly, while he never showed any care, concern, or love for me, even though we were only 500 km apart. I was the one traveling 14 hours every week just to see him. After nine months of marriage, he suddenly told his parents that I was having an affair and torturing him by getting involved with another girl.
I made him delete all of her pictures and memories, yet he continued giving her gifts and even a credit card. He messaged her frequently. When I confronted him, he called me narrow minded and said I couldn’t understand his “friendship.” He admitted to having physical relationships with her multiple times. On top of that, we shared an Amazon account. He used sildenafil tablets, and whenever I asked about them, he lied.
He abandoned me and didn’t reach out for five months. When I tried messaging him, he told me not to torture him with my texts. Now he’s flying to the US, and it’s almost over it’s likely ending in divorce. My parents invested all their hard earned savings into this marriage, and now they’re left with nothing. I became so dumb and depressed for enduring this for 16 months. The biggest mistake I made was getting emotionally attached to him and not sharing any of this with my parents or friends.
Life Lesson: Never get emotionally attached to anyone. Your self respect matters. Don’t be foolishly devoted to someone who doesn’t value you. No matter where you are in life, your parents should always be your priority.