She and I started our relationship around 1.4 years ago. We used to be good friends before that (for around a year). She had a very toxic ex boyfriend who used to abuse and manipulate her. He used her for her money and body, and she genuinely loved him. He hid his age using fake documents he was 29 years old, and she was under 18. He used to cheat on her behind her back. He had been married before one arranged marriage and one love marriage, but he divorced them both.
When she was breaking up with her ex, he raped her. He would still call her, come outside her house, shout her name, and threaten to kill her. After all that, she started talking to me. We had an accidental kiss, and we started meeting and kissing, but we never had sex. Then we started a friends with benefits type of relationship. It went on for 7 months. We hardly met during this time, but she started really loving me. I had my doubts and never truly appreciated her.
I would call once every three days or even less. She waited for me to change. During those 7 months, neither of us cheated. But she decided to end it. After losing her from my life, I realized I loved her. For a month, we were apart. During this time, she started talking to other guys. After 15 days, I confessed my feelings, and we started dating even though she was still talking to that other guy. I took my time because of my past trauma.
She kept that guy around because she thought I would change back or leave her again like before. But I didn’t. I gave her a serious relationship for 6 months at least from my side. During this time, she was still with him too. I asked her to hang out, but she never went out with me. She went out with him instead. They didn’t have sex at first, but in the last two months, they had sex 4 to 5 times. She cared about him more and always lied to me.
I asked her who she loved more, and she said she loved me more but cared for him because he was “innocent” in all of this. She said it all started from anger and impulsive behavior. She gave him everything that I deserved – her time, her body, everything (we never had sex or hung out much). Now she wants a second chance. She says she wants to become a better person and truly love me. She left that guy and is trying to convince me she’s sorry and wants to change.
But it’s hard to believe her. She made fake promises about marriage to both of us. Now I feel used. But I gave her a second chance because some part of me still loves her – and also because of her past trauma (I also posted their chat photos on social media her friends blocked her after that). Did I do the right thing, or am I being manipulated? She even gave me her password and is asking me to wait for her 2 to 3 months. I know she has trust issues and more, but I still believe in her.
Question: Was my decision right to give her a chance?
Option 1: What should I do?
Option 2: Will she change?