My boyfriend and I got together during our second year of college, shortly after he ended a year long relationship with a classmate of mine. Initially, he accepted my proposal, but later avoided me when he felt things were getting complicated, as his ex and I became friends. Fast forward a year, I had lost hope in the relationship, but still tried to reach out to him. Meanwhile, I became very close with his ex, who was unaware of our relationship.
After nearly two years, we reconciled and had an amazing time together. For almost three years, including two years of long-distance, he made efforts to fly between countries just to spend 4 to 6 days with me. Constant FaceTime and phone calls made our relationship worthwhile, and we even discussed marriage by the end of 2025. However, during a trip he took with friends, he spent four days with a girl who had proposed to him during the break after my initial proposal.
I had asked him not to stay in contact with her, but he spent time with her because she helped them tour the city. His friends even told him it was wrong, but he insisted on staying with her, claiming it was just as friends. When I confronted him, he initially lied but later admitted the truth. I broke up with him because I couldn’t accept what happened. He cried, tried to convince me, and spoke with my family, who are now aware of everything.
He’s assured me he will never repeat this or hide anything from me and is committed to giving his 100%. Despite this, I’m struggling with trust and how to rebuild our bond. When I reevaluate our relationship over the past three years, I can’t find a reason to leave him because he has been supportive and even willing to defy his family for us. Yet, I am still struggling with accepting what he did.
I confronted the girl to see if they had a physical relationship, but both she and my boyfriend deny it. My parents have left the decision to me and are okay with whatever I choose. He assures me he is committed, but I’m filled with doubts and “what ifs.” Should I trust him?