In 2020, I met this guy when I was interviewing for a job. He was the interviewer, and he contacted me via WhatsApp, saying he found my number through Naukri and wanted to schedule my interview for his institute. He asked for a professional photo, email, etc., like normal formalities. I gave him the details, and he mentioned that my location was too far and asked if I thought it would be okay to commute that far daily. I asked about their location, and when he told me, I realized it wouldn’t be easy for me. So, I declined his offer because of the distance.
A few days later, he contacted me again, and we started talking daily. He had saved my number, and I saved his, thinking he might be useful someday. As we talked more, he started falling for me, or at least that’s what he used to say. I liked him a little too, but I wasn’t ready for a commitment at all. I had just gotten out of a long relationship and wasn’t looking for anything serious, nor did I want to get into another relationship.
I made it clear to him, saying, “I like you a little, but I’m not serious about you, so don’t expect anything like a relationship or commitment from me.” Despite that, we decided to meet on September 7, 2021, and we ended up hooking up that same day. Afterward, he fell even harder for me. He would constantly love bomb me, telling me daily how much he loved me. He said he was happy with his one sided love, even if I didn’t accept his feelings.
I didn’t meet him again after our first encounter because I didn’t feel good about him. A year later, I found someone else, and I was ready to commit to this new guy (Guy 2) because of the feelings, vibes, and my instincts. I fell for him in 2022. At this point, Guy 1 proposed to me, asking me to marry him. I told him that there was nothing serious between us and that I had found someone else. I was planning to confess my feelings to Guy 2.
Guy 1 then started behaving possessively, claiming he couldn’t live without me and would never love anyone else. A few days later, the same Guy 1 told me his family was looking for someone for him to marry. I felt sad but also realized I had been wrong to string Guy 1 along. Unfortunately, Guy 2 kind of cheated on me a few days later. Guy 1 and I were still in touch, and one day, while scrolling through Instagram, a girl sent me a follow request. Her display picture was with Guy 1.
I was shocked, so I followed her back and went through her posts. That’s when I found her wedding photos with Guy1 from April 2021, four months before I met him. This meant that Guy 1, who had been pretending to be madly in love with me and even proposed to marry me, had already been married for four months when we first met. To add to the shock, he also has a 1 year old son. When I confronted him, his excuse was, “I still love you madly. I’m a victim of a forced arranged marriage.My wife and I never had anything to begin with. Our marriage has been ruined since day one.”
Yet, somehow, despite this “ruined” marriage, they had a baby. He even had the audacity to suggest that I marry him after his son turns 3 and he divorces his wife. I blocked him after sending him a closure text, saying, “You are the most pathetic and shameless person to exist. I doubt that the baby is even yours, considering how spineless and unmanly you are.” Then, I blocked him.