I am an average looking guy but with a really good job. After coming out of IIT, where the girls to boys ratio was a joke and due to a lack of proper social skills, I never had a girlfriend. I worked for 5 years in highly stressful jobs, and again, there were no women there. My routine shrunk to work, eat, sleep, and on weekends, try to study something new, as I lacked any sort of social circle. But I always wanted a partner with whom I could be carefree, act childlike, go on trips together, and enjoy weekends.
I was frustrated with my job, so I went for my master’s. The coursework was a cakewalk, while my peers struggled. During that time, I met a girl. She was nice and sweet to me but always asked for my assignments, sat with me during exams, and copied my answers. Initially, I didn’t bother much, as that was the only female interaction I had and she knew that. Gradually, I fell for her but never told her. As soon as I finished my master’s, she stopped talking like she used to. I felt used and thought no one would ever like me.
I tried dating apps but hardly ever got any matches, and at my workplace, everyone was married. I felt so lonely at my new job and betrayed by the previous girl (I understand choosing a partner is her choice, and I’m completely fine if she didn’t choose me, but it was the fake friendship that hurt me a lot). After spending 2 years like that, my parents started looking for matches. Initially, I thought it was a transactional, shallow way to meet a partner. Since I was successful in my career, I got really good matches, but I really liked a shy village girl.
What I loved was how innocent and pure she was. That’s when I decided that if she agreed to marry me, I would ensure she gets everything she loves. Fast forward 2 years, I am happily married to her. Initially, dating apps made me insecure, and the past incident with the girl made me question my self worth. I kept wondering if anyone would ever love me. But my wife’s love changed me it was pure and unconditional. That’s when I realized love is not a destination; it’s a journey. It doesn’t end with marriage but grows as we grow old.
Sure, we had our fair share of quarrels, but we never slept angry. I’ve written notes from when I met her and how I would treat her. After any fight, I read those and calm down. Even she would never allow me to starve when I say I wouldn’t eat. I think these quarrels just spice up the marriage, but most of the time, it’s just pure love and care. Initially, I wanted a girl with a good education and some city upbringing, but now I realize it doesn’t matter just the person’s core values matter. So guys out there, there’s nothing wrong with arranged marriage. Give it a chance. Hope you end up with a beautiful fairy like I did.