I’m 26, married, and have two sons. I got married in 2017, but my married life hasn’t been a fairy tale. Just 25 days after my wedding, my father-in-law passed away due to health issues. Things were normal for a while, and we were blessed with our first son. Life went on until COVID hit in 2019.
That’s when I noticed changes in my husband. He started talking to another woman, but I didn’t confront him right away. He would argue with me over small things. One day, I asked him directly about her, but he denied anything serious, saying it was just casual conversations. Eventually, I gathered proof and confronted him again. This led to huge fights, and I stayed at my mom’s house for 45 days. Despite everything, I decided to patch things up with him and move on. I don’t know if their relationship continued or not, and I stopped worrying about it.
In 2022, we had our second son, and things were fine. In 2023, I got a job at a bank, which made my husband happy. I’ve always loved him deeply and never had feelings for anyone else before. But when I joined work, I met a senior colleague who was separated from his wife and had a son. He was kind, caring, and made me feel special. Eventually, he confessed his feelings for me, and despite my hesitation, I got emotionally and physically involved with him.
Soon after, I was transferred to another branch, but his concern for me continued. I felt torn between my husband and this man. Realizing I was on the wrong path, I told him we needed to stop. But things spiraled when my husband found out. We had massive fights and separated for four months. I begged for forgiveness and promised to never repeat my mistake. He took me back three months ago, but things aren’t the same.
Now, he brings up the past constantly, accuses me of staying in touch with that man, and stops talking to me for days. I feel stuck, unsure of what to do or how to fix this.