I’ve been in a relationship for the past 5 years with a boy who is 3 years older than me. We are like childhood sweethearts-best friends and lovers at the same time. We used to spend most of our time texting and updating each other. We met often and had a happy relationship. No drama, no toxic exes, no cheating, and no trust issues.
But for the past 4-5 months, everything has changed. Every conversation turns into an argument. We’ve never been on a date because I was the one who initially denied such things at the start of our relationship. But now that I’ve grown up, I crave those little gestures. He’s never bought me a flower to this day. He has anger issues, and while I used to ignore them earlier, I can’t anymore. He gets triggered very easily.
He has never spent a penny on me, and I don’t feel happy around him anymore. Even though I crave his energy and his presence, I don’t want to meet him. I can’t feel the connection anymore. I wouldn’t say he has changed, but my patience is over. For the past year, I’ve been taunting him, saying things like, “You don’t call me, you don’t ask me to meet you.” His reply is always the same: “Whether I do it or you, it’s the same thing.”
I feel that it’s necessary for us to talk on phone calls-not daily because of our schedules, but at least once a week. I think I deserve that much. I’ve never asked for fancy dates or expensive restaurants. I don’t even like such things. But those random phone calls, flowers, and small, cute dates-every girl deserves that.
A few months ago, he even abused me when I denied him physical intimacy. His tone and words from that night still haunt me. I haven’t moved on from that incident, and I feel like that’s when things started to change. I don’t think I’m in love with him anymore. I still trust him and feel attached to him, but I no longer feel in love.
I’ve confessed my feelings to him, but he insists we can fix this together. I’ve been waiting for things to improve for the past 5-6 months, but everything seems to be getting worse. I don’t feel any mental or emotional support from him. He might be doing his best, but I don’t feel it. I cry myself to sleep while he sleeps carelessly, even after a huge fight.
I know he loves me and cares for me. He’s the only one who has stood by me every time, but I don’t think I’m mentally able to continue this anymore. ~ Anonymous
Question: What should I do?
1. Should I give him another chance?
2. Or should I leave him?
if u think u dnt have the feeling of love, then why stay with such person and get abused when u don’t allow him for physical intimacy. that happens when 2people are njyng it. not when one wants it and the other doesn’t.
better focus on ur own life than thinking about someone who doesn’t love u. and u dnt have feelings of love anymore