My Caring as Love, and Even Years Later, He Is Ruining His Beautiful Life. Just like most of us, I had a male best friend during my studies. We were not from the same university; we met online. He was not like every other boy. He was conservative, sensitive, intellectual, and humorous. So, I connected with him easily. Sometimes, I had to take the initiative to start conversations with him. I liked him very much as a friend.
I shared literally everything about my past, present, and future with him. He became very supportive of me, standing by my side even if I was wrong. I thought of him as a very best friend. But. After a couple of years, he started to develop other feelings for me and expressed that he wanted to take our relationship to the next level. I never thought he would behave like that. There is a thin line between love and friendship.
Unfortunately, he couldn’t understand that. So, I convinced him to move out of my life. Luckily, he agreed. After a few months, I got married and recently had a child. I now have my own happy family. I learned from our mutual friends that he got married a few years back as well. I was genuinely happy for him. I knew he was not like everyone else, to waste his time and feelings on someone unworthy like me.
But I realized that my assumption was wrong. We still follow each other on social media. I haven’t blocked him because he never crossed a line in our friendship (except for that proposal). Even after we separated, he never disturbed me. He still seems to be thinking about me. Recently, I received a message from him apologizing for proposing to me five years ago. He said he couldn’t stop thinking about me and wanted to continue our friendship.
I clearly understand that he is not happy or maintaining a healthy relationship with his wife. What makes me feel guilty is that I am the reason for his current situation and for his wife. I can’t spend time with him like before because I now have a family and commitments. I can’t tell him this because I am scared. It’s time to block him. I only liked him, but he loved me, and probably still does. I hope he soon realizes that I am no longer his and that he has a beautiful life ahead.
what’s the need to be scared. just cause he likes u doesn’t mean u too must like him. u got a life or ur own and u can’t run it just cause of he isn’t happy. better move on and take care of ur own family.