I am 17 years old male and my girlfriend is 16 years old. We met for the first time in 9th grade. At that time, we were just friends and good classmates, but suddenly, we developed feelings for each other, though we didn’t tell anyone.
In 10th grade, we were in different divisions. She started talking to me, and I was ignoring her because I didn’t want to fall for her. But guess what? We both fell for each other so hard. I told her multiple times that this wouldn’t work, but she said we should try our best. I believed in her, and I started fighting against everyone for our relationship.
On October 13, 2023, after school, I asked her when she would propose to me. She said, “Girls don’t propose.” I told her that I wouldn’t propose either. Then, I held her school bag and told her to propose to me right now. She hesitated, but within two minutes, she said, “I love you.” I heard those words and started walking home. Suddenly, she held my school bag and asked me to reply. I said the same words and told her that in this relationship, I don’t want a breakup-this was my one rule. She agreed.
All four divisions of our 10th-grade teachers and even the principal came to know about our relationship, but they didn’t do anything against us. She wrote two letters for me as our final board exams were approaching. When I read those letters, I had a nosebleed because they were so emotional and magical. At the end of the letters, she gave all her personal details.
I waited for her to call, and when she did, I was stunned. We kept talking for hours and hours. During the summer vacations after 10th grade, we used to talk to each other for 7-8 hours a day. After that, we both joined different coaching institutes. She was preparing for medical entrance exams, and I was preparing for engineering. Her coaching center was 12 km away from mine. We used to travel by metro.
We met once a month, and every date felt like heaven. Cafe dates, walking while holding hands, and having fun. We were the most understanding people in each other’s lives. We celebrated our first anniversary on October 13, 2024, and promised each other that we wouldn’t give up on our relationship. At the age of 16, I fought against my parents and relatives to convince them about our future together. Everything was going well. She was getting involved with my family and friends. Our love language was physical touch, and whenever I got the chance, I used to kiss her, and she did the same.
But in 2024, she told me more than six times to break up, unnecessarily and without reason. It was mostly due to frustration and mood swings. But she always apologized, accepted her mistakes, and even I did. Neither of us had ego issues in the relationship-it felt like we were married in a past life. We hurt each other sometimes, but we never gave up. We always understood, sorted things out, and fixed them.
However, after the New Year in 2025, things changed. We started fighting more often. She had a short temper, and I began reacting in the same way. I would sometimes threaten her by saying that I would tell her parents about our relationship, which would make her panic. But I always calmed her down afterward. In just six months, I spent over 20,000 rupees on our dates and outings. I wasn’t worried about the money-that wasn’t the issue.
Now comes the main part. On February 5, 2025, we had a fight, and I was extremely angry with her. She kept apologizing, and then, on a metro bridge, she started hugging, kissing, and seducing me to make up for it. I kissed her back. I told her not to leave without solving the fight, or else I would go to her house and tell her parents everything. In anger, I told her that she only cared about her family and friends and not about me or our relationship. She started leaving. I held her hand, but she kept walking away. I followed her and tried to convince her to go home, but she refused multiple times. She told me to take her to my house or send her to my village, but I told her I couldn’t do that at this age. Then she told me to leave.
When I logged into her Snapchat account, I saw that her friends and sister were calling her. Her sister told me that their family was crying and looking for her. She told me to act like a medical store employee and lie about where she was. I agreed and told them she had come to my store for stomach pain medicine. Then her uncle asked for my store’s address. My girlfriend finally spoke to her family and agreed to go home.
I left her near the metro bridge. But later, her uncle called me and started threatening me. He said they would see me at the police station. I got scared and blocked all her numbers. Then, my girlfriend told her uncle that I had molested her and that I was a stranger to her. She gave my dad’s number to her uncle, and they told him they were coming with the police to our house.
My father kept calling me, asking me to come home. When I reached home, he questioned me a lot. Then he told them that we would meet at a different location to confirm the situation. My girlfriend came with her uncle and aunt. As soon as they saw me, they tried to hit me. Her aunt slapped me, and her uncle was about to attack me, but I pushed him back and stared at him. My father and my girlfriend didn’t stand up for me. Only one of my friends did.
We went to the police station, where I was treated badly. All of my girlfriend’s false statements were taken as the truth. Then I showed the police all our pictures, chat recordings, and proof from September 2024. But none of it mattered. The case was transferred to another police station, and I was made to sit on the floor like a criminal. The police deleted my evidence and forced me to do the same. But I was smart enough to keep backups.
My father believed them to some extent and didn’t take a stand for me. My girlfriend didn’t cheat on me, but this was also a betrayal. I had promised to give her a happy life, but she gave me the worst day of my life on February 6, 2025. Her uncle and the police said that if a case was filed against me, I wouldn’t get a passport or a job anywhere.
I fought against my family for her, but she didn’t fight for me against hers. From her side, it’s a breakup. But from my side, it isn’t. I will wait for her for the rest of my life. I don’t know what to do now. Please help me. My father paid 20,000 rupees at the police station to stop them from filing a case, and her family also agreed not to proceed with the complaint because they believed me.
I want her and only her. I had a physical relationship with her, and I don’t want to be with anyone else. I’m not able to eat, drink, study, trust, or sleep. I feel dead inside. I keep crying. We were ready to leave everything behind for our relationship, but now I don’t know what to do. Please help me.
- Should I end my life?
- Should I focus on my career, adopt a little girl, name her after my girlfriend, and stay single forever?
- Should I kidnap her? (Just joking)
- If she calls me, should I accept her?
- Will she ever regain my trust?
- How can I get back with her?
- Should I marry her if I get the chance, or would that be a mistake?
- Should I wait for her? And if she never comes back, what should I do?
I have so many questions but limited space to ask them all.
If a boy is fully loyal, this is what he gets in the end?
Option 1: Should I commit suicide?
Option 2: Should I wait for her?