I got into a relationship with my senior during the first year of my engineering. He proposed to me after we started talking on Instagram. In the beginning, he would sometimes talk to me, and other times he wouldn’t. Since this was my first relationship, I didn’t really know how to communicate with him. I waited for him to message me, and slowly we built a bond. But then, his behavior began to change. He started treating me based on his mood. We argued often, and then he told me he didn’t want a relationship anymore.
I couldn’t bear the thought of breaking up, so I resisted. But soon after, some of my college friends and his ex contacted me, revealing that he had been dating multiple girls at once, and he was still seeing his ex. I confronted him, and he admitted to cheating. We decided to break up, and he moved on with someone else. I tried to heal, but it was hard. When the lockdown started, we lost contact, and I tried to move on.
However, his ex messaged me one day, telling me things he had said about me to her. He claimed that I was obsessed with him and that I was only interested in physical things, even though it was he who had pushed me into that situation. This made me really depressed, and for two years, I cried daily and couldn’t move on from him. After some time, he came back to me, wanting to get back together, but I refused because I knew he was seeing someone else. Once the lockdown ended and college resumed, I saw him again.
He messaged me, wanting to talk, and despite everything, I ended up meeting him again. Even though I knew he was still with his ex, I got back into the relationship with him. However, after our final exams, he suddenly wanted to break up again. I was heartbroken. I asked him why he had done this to me, knowing how much it would hurt. He admitted that he just wanted someone for “time pass” and physical things. I cried a lot, but after a while, I saw that his ex was still following him on Instagram.
I messaged her, asking if she was still in a relationship with him, and she confirmed that they were still together. I sent him a screenshot of the conversation, and he apologized, saying sorry for everything. But even after all that, he tried to leave me again. After a few months, his ex left him, and they broke up. He reached out to me, wanting to talk, but I told him I had moved on and asked him to leave my life for good.
I moved to Pune for my entrance exam preparation, while he tried to convince his other ex to get back with him. She rejected him and got into a relationship with one of his friends. This caused arguments between him and his friend. He called me, telling me how hurt he felt when his ex rejected him. I ended up helping him heal, and during that time, I fell in love with him again. After three years of being together, things were somewhat better. But recently, I made a mistake I was missing him a lot and called him continuously, even though he was busy.
His father saw it, and I felt like he was avoiding me. He told me he was at home and couldn’t talk. I was upset, and we argued. I asked why he couldn’t give me just five minutes of his time, but he said he didn’t have time for my “nonsense.” We had another argument, and he said we should break up. But I couldn’t let go. I can’t live without him. Every day without him feels like a struggle. I miss him so much. What should I do?
Question: Should I break up with him or not?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No