I’m 28 years old, raised by a single mother in a joint family. When I was 18, a boy proposed to me. We talked for a few months and were together, but when my family found out, his parents were uncomfortable with our relationship. So, I stopped speaking to him.
A year later, I got close to one of his friends, and we’ve been in a relationship for the past 10 years. However, I haven’t been able to marry him or settle down because he doesn’t have a stable job, and he’s now 30. He also has anger issues that I find hard to tolerate, yet I can’t bring myself to consider other matches either.
At times, I feel like I cheated on the first boy by suddenly cutting him off and moving on with his friend. Through mutual friends, I’ve heard that he still believes I betrayed him. The truth is, I told him clearly that I couldn’t speak to him anymore because of the pressure from our families. It took him five years to move on, and he suffered a lot during that time. Now he’s getting married and seems happy, while I’m stuck in a relationship that feels uncertain.
I have this urge to message him and explain what really happened, how his parents warned me and why I had to step back. At the same time, I’m torn. Should I continue in my current relationship, hoping he will change, or shour. I move on and find a new path for myself?
What should I do? Post your opinion in the comments.
u shudve informed him at the time when u got warned. waiting these many years and again trying to enter his life after these many years.
even if u share the thing he won’t be intrested in u as he’s about to get married
he won’t cheat his partner
u shud move on from his thoughts and from ur current relation too if u wanna have some peace
find a companion who might help u get over this