I’m a woman, and after a bad breakup where I was cheated on, I found it hard to trust anyone again. During my hospital internship, I met a guy, let’s call him Guy A. He made me feel special, and despite my initial hesitation, I gave in and started a relationship with him. He was kind, loyal, and everything I thought I needed to heal.
However, from the very beginning, Guy A told me he couldn’t marry me because of religious differences. He said that when the time came for me to marry, he’d let me go. I thought that with time, he might change his mind and see how much we loved each other. For three years, I tried to convince him to talk to our parents and give us a chance, but he never agreed. Eventually, I couldn’t take it anymore and broke things off with him.
A few months later, I met another guy online, let’s call him Guy B. It started as casual chit-chat, but he was so kind and understanding that we became close. He didn’t know about my past relationship, and when he proposed to me, I told him I only wanted someone serious about marriage. He assured me he was ready to marry me and even talk to my parents. No one had ever said that to me before, and I felt drawn to him because of it.
But as our relationship progressed, I started seeing his true colors. Guy B was narcissistic, abusive, and manipulative. He blackmailed me, degraded me, and even reached out to Guy A to humiliate me further. He lied to him, saying I had used him for pleasure and claimed he was already engaged (which wasn’t true). Guy A didn’t tell me about this because Guy B had threatened him too.
When I finally escaped the abusive relationship, I went back to Guy A to apologize for how things had ended between us. Instead of understanding, he called me a cheater. He accused me of using him, staying with him until I found someone else to marry, and then leaving him.
Now I’m still thinking-was I really the cheater here?