I’m a 39-year-old single parent. I separated from my husband 12 years ago and divorced 2years back (I didn’t take alimony from my husband because I am not a beggar to feed myself on his money nor my son). For a long time, I had almost given up on relationships and my s*x life. However, I briefly explored dating apps for about three months, just out of curiosity, to see what everyone was talking about.
During this time, I matched with a 27-year-old guy. He was incredibly sweet, respectful, and always admired me. From the start, I made it clear that I had no intention of getting physically involved, but when we met for the first time, the attraction was undeniable. Since then, I’ve found myself completely drawn to him – he’s amazing in bed, unlike most men.
Despite our strong connection, I had already decided not to continue with him in the long run because of the age gap and our different life paths. He’s a railway employee from Kolkata who came to Karnataka for work, but eventually, he’ll return home to settle down and get married. That said, we’ve now been seeing each other for almost a year.
Even though we don’t live in the same city (we’re 196 km apart), we meet twice a month. However, when he visits his hometown, he asks me not to call or text, as he doesn’t want his family to know about us. Deep down, I know there’s no future for us, and I’m not looking to marry him either, but I still find myself emotionally attached. If he neglects me even for a day, it hurts. At the same time, I feel happiest when we talk.
I worry about how things will unfold because, eventually, we’ll have to part ways. While we’ve agreed to make the most of the present, I can’t help but feel that he has an entire life ahead of him, while I’ve already experienced so much. One thing that bothers me is that he never spends money on me or gives me gifts. As a single parent, I already have financial struggles, and this aspect of our relationship frustrates me.
More than anything, I’m afraid of how I’ll cope with my sex life once he’s gone. How do I handle this situation in the best way for myself?
as I already know it clearly that there will be no permanent relation between u. he’s just 27 what can u expect. he’s I a age where he too needs physical things. he gets that from u. he’ll make fun out of it till he gets married then leave u to cry. make up ur mind as soon as possible. or else ull be the one to suffer. if it is sex life ur concerned abt u might find someone else too. he needs to get married so he can’t be with u forever. as long as he has the chance to use u he will. later ull be dumped. try finding someone else asap