Confession of Girl about Forcefull Marriage

When I was in 10th grade, I met a man at a family function. We started as casual friends, but it eventually turned into something more. At that age, I didn’t fully understand what love meant; for us, it was just meeting at family events. Eventually, my family became aware of our relationship, and I was warned to stay away from him.

When I was in my first year of B.Tech, he called to tell me that his marriage had been arranged. I congratulated him and asked why he was getting married so young. He explained that due to family circumstances, he had accepted the proposal and the girl chosen for him. He got married and now has two children.

After I graduated, my family started looking for a match for me. My father found a suitor, but neither I nor my family liked him at all. This led to years of quarrels, but eventually, my brother and mother were convinced. I repeatedly tried to explain that this man was not right for me, that he was manipulative and had even tried to deceive me on Facebook and Instagram. He used my father to push for the marriage and made false allegations that we had been roaming around Hyderabad together. He also created the impression that I didn’t like him because he was poor. Despite my protests and clear statements that I had no prior connection with him, my parents didn’t believe me. I became so depressed that I attempted suicide twice. For three years, this match was a constant topic of discussion in my home, and there was no change in my family’s decision. In 2021, I was engaged to this man. Despite trying many ways to escape, I couldn’t, knowing that if I did, it would lead to rumors and more questions.

After my engagement, I reconnected with the guy I knew from 10th grade and explained my situation to him. He was the only person who listened to all my problems and struggles. I don’t know much about how his married life is going, but he strongly advised me not to marry someone I don’t like, saying it would only lead to more problems, like the ones he was facing. He told me about the issues in his marriage and how he had a tattoo of my name from long ago.

I was the only person who listened to all my problems and struggles. I don’t know much about how his married life is going, but he strongly advised me not to marry someone I don’t like, saying it would only lead to more problems, like the ones he was facing. He told me about the issues in his marriage and how he had a tattoo of my name from long ago. I was shocked, and the care and respect he showed me made me fall in love with him again, despite knowing he is married with two kids. I don’t know his wife’s side of the story, but he told me that they have been living separately for a few years.

Now, I have a lot of questions. Before I enter his life, I know they have had many quarrels, police cases, and panchayat sessions. But I feel guilty-she is a woman like me, with children.

How can I be with him? I told him how I’m feeling, but he doesn’t seem to understand. He says he’s suffering a lot and will commit suicide if I’m not in his life. I’ve tried to explain the situation and the problems our relationship could cause, but he insists that he will take care of his children and that it’s his responsibility. He told me clearly that his marriage will not work out, that he’s faced many problems because of his wife, and that he won’t accept her, regardless of whether I’m in his life or not. He said he had given her many chances but had lost his patience.

After my engagement, I moved to Hyderabad for a job and didn’t go home for a year. My parents tried to convince me to return, but they eventually canceled my engagement.

Please, I need advice on what to do. I feel guilty and don’t want to hurt my parents, his children, or another woman’s life.