So, my family found out that I was dating someone, and they completely cut me off from him. They kept me locked up at home for two weeks and then forced me to go back to college.
The next two months were the happiest of my life because I was finally living for myself. I thought I had done the right thing by listening to my family and breaking up with the guy. After all, he had started seeing someone else just two days later.
But after almost two months, a very close family friend brought a proposal to my house for me.
The guy and I are in the same profession, but since I was still healing from everything, I initially said no. However, my family pressured me, saying he was a good guy, his family was great, and such proposals don’t come often. I said yes just to make them happy. Everyone was so excited, except for me, because I couldn’t connect with him-emotionally, mentally, or physically. It felt more like a duty than a relationship; I had to talk to him every day because well, I was his fiancée now.
Months passed, and even though I still had no feelings for him, I met someone new. Slowly, we started talking, getting to know each other, and he fell for me first. Despite knowing I was engaged, he never stopped showing his love for me. And before I knew it, I fell in love with him too. He cared for me deeply, from the day we met till today, he’s still the same. But now I’m stuck with this other guy, the one my family chose for me. He’s also caring and loving, but I just don’t feel anything for him.
Soon, my family found out I was seeing someone else, and they did everything in their power to save this marriage with the other guy. They even lied to him to make it work, but I’m not happy at all. The other guy might be a great person, but I feel guilty for what I’ve done. My family is insisting I forget everything and accept him, but what do I do now?
I don’t feel anything when I look at him not a partner, not even a romantic thought. It’s been a year and we haven’t even kissed or held hands romantically. There’s no spark in this relationship, at least from my side. I keep comparing him to the guy I fell in love with, and honestly, he doesn’t love me the way the other guy did. Maybe I’m just confused, but please tell me what to do.