Confession of Girl’s Family towards Caste

I have been with a guy for the last 12 years. He is very sweet, good, and the best I can say. He loves me a lot, and I love him deeply as well. We’ve been through a lot together since school.

Yes, he hurt me in the beginning, during the early years of our relationship, but we never gave up. We always came back to each other. Now, alhamdulillah, everything is good between us since we started working and became financially stable. The issue is that he belongs to a different caste.

His family is very supportive, especially since he lost his parents. He now has his uncle and aunts supporting him. They’ve tried everything to make my parents understand, but initially, my mom rejected his aunts, saying, “We can’t marry someone from another caste,” and my father ignored his uncle’s calls. Despite this, my boyfriend is very sweet. He continues to try. He even called my mother, sisters, and everyone, but they show support but can’t help. Yes, sometimes my boyfriend gets frustrated and raises his voice at me, but he never gives up. He’s trying all possible ways.

I come from a very orthodox family. I can’t even talk to a guy in front of my father. He told me he never thought I could do something like this. He is broken because of me. He says I cannot choose my own partner; this is not the culture in our family. And of course, the main issue is the difference in caste. In short, he has all these problems, and his blood pressure rises whenever I bring this topic up. I love my father a lot; he has done everything for me. But I can’t imagine my life without my boyfriend. I can’t even explain how much we love each other and how we’ve imagined our lives together. We are at the right point to get married. It feels like the right time to be together, and yet, this is happening. It feels like it will never end. I am losing hope that my father will ever agree, as he never picks up calls from my boyfriend’s side-he just ignores them.

Please tell me what to do. We’ve been trying for almost two years now. My father is very strict, and he has stopped talking to me. My boyfriend is saying we should get married, but deep down, he knows this isn’t ideal. I want both my boyfriend and my father in my life. Please suggest what should I do.