I am 30. I got married at 24 to the love of my life, whom I have known since 12th standard. He has always been a loving and caring person. After marriage, he remained caring and provided everything I ever wanted; he still does. One year after marriage, he started drinking a lot with his friends, and we used to fight like a normal couple about drinking. But every time we fought about drinking, he would text and approach girls on social media. I confronted him many times, but he always apologized and each time gave me the excuse that we married too early, and he didn’t get to flirt like all his friends did. He said he regretted it, so sometimes he texts giris-nothing more..
Being stupid, I forgave him every time as I was a girl madly in love. Soon, this became a pattern in our life: him drinking, then us fighting, then girls’ scandals, and then forgiving. Then he started treating me like I didn’t have a life besides him and made me feel worse about myself, my personality, and my choices. It became extreme with time. He used to treat me well in front of others but was distant with me in private. He told me he couldn’t let me hang out with his friends because he was ashamed of me in certain ways. This led to distance between us, not discussing any issues, and ignoring each other.
In the meantime, I caught him meeting with other girls. Then, things escalated: I pushed him in anger, and he broke his ankle. I sort of felt good at that moment, but it was hurting me inside. After five years of our marriage, he told me, “Let’s plan a baby. I will be a better person and stop doing such things.” We planned a baby in 2022, and I gave birth in 2023. Everything was good, like I had my lover back, and when I finally thought my life was perfect, I found out my husband was having an affair on my baby’s birthday. He was sleeping with a girl while I was nursing and taking care of our baby.
His best friend was involved in all this. Even though I have known his best friend for 13 years, when I confronted them, they told me it was just a casual affair. I was devastated. But when I dug deeper, it was way more complicated. Both my husband and his best friend were dating the same girl, and the girl turned out to be my brother’s ex-girlfriend. The girl used to play her family depression card with every boy she met. She made both my husband and his best friend fight for her as if my husband were single.
When I asked my brother about this girl, he told me he had dated her two years back but broke up because she was a psycho and depressed. She used to blackmail him, so he left her. My husband told me the girl wasn’t letting him go. Every time he tried to cut ties, she would throw herself at him. She was so good at sex and talking that he became addicted to her, and nothing else mattered to him when he was with her. He told me, “I only went to her for 1 hour a day, and I thought, ‘It’s only 1 hour, how does it matter?”
When I was sleeping with the baby during the day, he went to her during that time. He told me details about how they met, what happened, and how I didn’t find out.
It’s been three months, and I am so mentally disturbed now that I am unable to forget. I am doing my best to move on. I even joined makeup classes to take my mind off things, but it all feels in vain.