Confession of Pranusha about her Relationship

I was in a relationship with someone who never saw his actions-only my reactions. My family knew about him, and it was already decided that we were going to get married one day. His family also knew about me, and they never gave me any indication that they weren’t ready for me to marry their son. They always used to be good to me.

The problem started when he went to Amity University for graduation. He started doing things that no girlfriend could tolerate from her boyfriend. From the beginning, he had placed many restrictions on me-no bindi with traditional outfits, I couldn’t get my threading done, I wasn’t allowed to wear a saree or lehenga to any functions because I have a good figure, I couldn’t wear fitted tops, or even long dresses because of my figure. I couldn’t alter loose suits-they had to remain loose. I accepted all these things without any problem. I wasn’t allowed to wear black clothes either. These conditions were in place even before he went to Amity, and they continued afterward.

He had said we would go to clubs together, never alone. I agreed. But after going to Amity, he went to clubs without me. Whenever I questioned his actions, he would always fight with me. He wasn’t maintaining limits with other girls, and when I confronted him, he said my mentality was low and that it was normal. He started breaking his own promises. He would fight with me over other girls.

Then, I decided to leave him. He begged me, saying, “Give me one chance, I won’t do it again.” I agreed. There was a particular girl because of whom I wanted to break up, but he promised not to talk to her anymore. I trusted him. Two months later, I caught him lying-he had dropped that same girl off at the metro station three times without telling me. That day, I was so shocked because he broke my trust. But after that, he apologized, and I still forgave him.

The most important thing-since 2022, he stopped putting in time, effort, or love. We only talked on the phone for about two and a half months in an entire year. In our seven-year relationship, he only came to meet me 3-4 times (in Rohini). Otherwise, I always had to travel to Noida because he said he didn’t have enough money for petrol. I understood him on that. But from his side, I only received disappointment.

After that lie, he was nice for a few days, and then I caught him again-this time calling another girl beautiful. I cried that day too. Of course, it’s normal to compliment someone, but when you’ve already broken my trust, can’t you just stop for a while? He apologized again, and I forgave him.

A few months later, he lied again. He told me there was no other girl, but I caught him through his friend’s post-there were actually two girls. That day, my trust was completely shattered. He started giving me lame excuses, yet I still forgave him. At this point, I started applying some restrictions on him too-the same way he had done to me from the beginning. But after all the lies, I told him: no black shirts, no smoking-just 3-4 small restrictions. He started calling me toxic because I couldn’t trust him again. He said my mentality was low, that I was too toxic.

And of course, we got physical too, though we didn’t lose our virginity. But we did a lot, and I only agreed because our families knew about us. He assured me we would get married, so I thought there was no problem. But then, on December 29, 2024, he broke up with me.

Before all of this, let me tell you-I had stopped imposing any restrictions on him since August because he said he would break up with me otherwise. But the restrictions he placed on me-the ones I mentioned above-were always there. He never lifted them.

He said he couldn’t live because of my “toxicity.” But tell me, can you trust someone who has lied to you continuously for a whole year? Even when he stopped lying for a year, his time, effort, and love were still zero. I cried a lot. I begged a lot for his time, but I never got it.

Trust isn’t something you can regain in a year after so many lies. You need to give time to the person instead of pressuring them. I gave him so many reasons to stay, but he never gave me even one. And yet, I still begged when he was leaving me because I loved him so much.

At the end, he said, “My parents also don’t agree with our marriage.” And because of my trust issues, he broke up with me. He never made me feel special, not even on my birthdays-not once in seven years.
What should I do?

Option 1: Should I wait for him?

Option 2: Move on from him…