Confession of Sanjana about her Marriage Proposal

Approximately two months ago, I received a marriage proposal from a family. The sister of the prospective groom initiated contact with me via Instagram, expressing their desire to meet me when I visited my hometown. She also reached out to my father to discuss the proposal.

I informed her that I would be unable to visit for another 2-3 months, as my classes had just commenced and I couldn’t take extended leave. Subsequently, the prospective groom contacted me via Instagram, and we began exchanging messages. However, during our conversation, I felt that his personality didn’t align with what I was looking for in a partner. I found his messages to be overly focused on his achievements, which made me uncomfortable.

When I found his messages to be consistently unsettling, I openly communicated my reservations to him, stating, “I don’t think we’re a suitable match, as I perceive you to be quite serious”. In response, he shared his contact number with me, suggesting that I reach out if I felt comfortable doing so. I acknowledged his message. I subsequently discussed this with my parents, and they advised me to engage in conversation with him, considering it was a marriage proposal.

They suggested that if everything seemed acceptable, we could proceed with the proposal. Following our initial conversation, we maintained daily communication, with him calling me consistently for the next several days. Our daily conversations lasted for approximately 4-5 hours, establishing a regular pattern of interaction. When I inquired about his parents’ opinions on our potential union, he shared that they were enthusiastic but wished to meet me in person, which was hindered by my absence from our hometown. He suggested that we proceed with the proposal upon my return.

As our daily conversations continued, we grew emotionally closer, forging a deep connection. Our lengthy, late-night discussions fostered a sense of intimacy. He affectionately used lovely names and showered me with attention, care, and compassion. During a period of intense loneliness and homesickness, I met him, and we quickly formed a connection. His caring and affectionate nature made him instantly endearing. As we grew closer, we planned to meet at my place, and I cherished the time spent together, believing he genuinely cared for me.

He demonstrated his support by assisting me with my academic pursuits and regularly inquiring about my day. Whenever I felt stressed, discussing my concerns with him brought me relief. He also surprised me with my favorite food, showcasing his thoughtful nature. It seemed he truly valued my company. Our relationship experienced its share of ups and downs, but he became like a best friend to me. I encouraged him to discuss our relationship with his parents, which he did. However, he reported that they were hesitant due to concerns about distance, my student status, and their preference for someone employed.

Although I was disheartened, he reassured me that he would convince his parents and expressed his love for me. He proposed visiting my home with his parents for a formal meeting, which I trusted would happen. Despite this, I remained emotionally dependent on him, and our continuous conversations persisted. Our conversations and shared happiness continued uninterrupted. He eagerly sought daily video calls, serenading me with songs and engaging in playful banter and games. However, despite our deepening connection, he failed to take a definitive stance regarding our relationship.

I discovered that his parents were actively exploring other marriage proposals for him, which filled me with sadness and desperation. I confronted him, expressing my concerns and frustrations. “I feel like we’re in a situationship,” I said. “You express love for me, but you’re not making any decisions about our future. Where does this leave me?”

He responded by saying that he would attempt to persuade his parents to accept our relationship. However, he also cautioned me against holding onto hope, stating that if his parents remained unwilling, he would not go against their wishes. Ultimately, I made the decision to cease communication with him. He was visibly distraught, imploring me not to leave and professing his genuine affection for me. However, I stood firm, emphasizing that if his feelings for me were sincere, he needed to take a definitive stance on our relationship. I explained that the ongoing uncertainty was taking a toll on my mental well-being, and I couldn’t continue in such a state of limbo.

Following our decision to stop communicating, there was no further contact from him. However, a week later, his sister reached out to me once again, inquiring about my plans to visit my hometown. She expressed their family’s desire to meet me in person and reiterated their interest in pursuing the marriage proposal, seemingly unaware of the developments that had transpired between her brother and me.

I expressed my confusion to his sister, asking why they were still pursuing the proposal when her brother had shown no genuine interest. She responded by stating that they had no issues with the proposal and were unaware of the developments in our relationship. She claimed that her brother had not discussed our interactions with her.

I then shared the details of our conversations and the emotional connection we had formed, followed by his inability to take a stance. His sister listened attentively, maintaining a neutral stance. She suggested that she would discuss the matter with her family, trying to understand why her brother had handled the situation in such a manner.

I reassured his sister not to feel uncomfortable, as I had already decided not to pursue the proposal further. I confided in her that I had developed strong feelings for her brother, and on multiple occasions, I had urged him to make a decision about our relationship. However, I felt betrayed as he consistently shifted the blame to his parents, rather than taking responsibility for his own actions. I realized that he had been dishonest with me from the outset, despite our initial interactions being centered around the prospect of marriage.

Question: What do you think about this?

1. Breadcrumbs

2. He enjoys my friendship

3. Psycho