He Flew Across the World and Proposed me with “I Love You”

I was searching for a life partner on Shaadi when a guy from another country sent me a request. After reviewing his profile, I accepted, and we began talking. Since we couldn’t meet immediately due to the distance, we made an effort to stay in touch through texts and calls. Over time, we connected deeply, discussing everything-from our pasts to our expectations for the future. As months passed, our bond grew stronger, and we developed genuine feelings for each other. We literally spoke daily.

After five months of talking, he decided to fly to my country to meet me, bringing his parents along for the arranged marriage process. They visited my home, met my family, and everything seemed to be moving forward smoothly. Once the formalities were over, he and I spent the next four days together, making the most of our time.

He was incredibly kind, affectionate, and expressive, constantly appreciating me and making me feel special. On one of those days, he even proposed to me with gifts, saying, “I love you. Will you marry me?” I also gifted him a few things and wrote him a letter. Additionally, I used to travel for one to two hours to meet him near his place and return home late, just so he wouldn’t get tired, as he wasn’t used to the traffic.

However, everything changed the moment he returned to his country. His energy shifted-he became distant, no longer using the sweet words he once did. Sensing something was wrong, I confronted him, only to hear the unexpected: his parents were not willing to proceed with the marriage. It was a devastating shock, especially after spending five months emotionally investing in him and trusting his confidence in our future together.

Despite this, he assured me that he would try to convince them. Wanting to protect myself from further pain, I suggested we stop talking until he sorted things out. But instead of checking on me, even as a basic gesture of concern, he completely disappeared for five days. Feeling abandoned, I finally texted him, saying, “I don’t think this is going to work out. I need in-laws who will welcome me wholeheartedly and a husband who will stand by me.”

Instead of understanding my pain, he emotionally manipulated me, replying, “If you’re giving up, then I’ll stop fighting too.” But the truth was, he was never truly fighting-his priority was always to keep his parents happy. Even after everything, he showed no remorse for leading me on, making me feel secure, only to abandon me when it mattered the most.

And the reason his parents rejected me? Because I was a bit lean (which I could have gained in 2 months of gym). I was just 4 kgs less for my height, and also because, on one of our days together, he returned home a little late-by 9 PM. I could have accepted it if he couldn’t convince his parents or stand up for me, but the least he could have done was be human, take accountability for what happened, and sincerely apologize to me.

Question: Who do you think was more at fault in this situation?

Option 1: The guy

Option 2: His parents