My Boyfriend Chasing Other Women

I met a guy in Bangalore who is really kind at heart, helpful to everyone, handsome, and caring. Within a few months, I fell in love with him and got very close to him. I never had any past relationship; he is my first. Another girl, our mutual friend, used to like him and told him many times to get married, but he used to tell her he was not interested. Then one day, her family took her back home from the PG because he was from a different religion. After that, for many months, there was no contact. He was so alone, and I was the only one there with him all the time. I suggested him to find another job to keep himself busy, and he did the same.

After joining the new job, we had a small fight, and he blocked me, saying, “I am already under so much tension; I can’t handle one more.” I begged him not to leave me, as I am alone in this city with no friends except him, but he didn’t listen. I cried a lot and accepted that it was over. Then, within a week, he unblocked me and said he got a new job of his choice and was in a good position. I asked him, “Why are you informing me? Am I important to you?” Again, we started talking.

One day, I suddenly went to his home, as I used to do before, without informing him. That day, he was shocked and told me to leave because a girl was coming to meet him. As I was already in love with him, I got very angry. He said he met a new girl at his previous office on the very first day, they exchanged numbers, and he was planning to marry her. He said he wanted to get to know her better and also mentioned he wanted to move on from the last girl who left him.

Here, I got very confused. This guy had only told me he didn’t love the last girl, but now he was saying something else. He said he didn’t know when he fell in love with the last girl. That day, at midnight, he dropped me back to the PG. I was so alone and afraid of losing him. During this time, he used to call me to his home and hide my slippers outside so that if the new girl came, she wouldn’t see them. I told him clearly, “Leave me completely; I don’t like this.” He used to say, “I just want to get to know this girl, but I’ve lost feelings for her.”

Again, one day, the last girl texted him and informed him she would come back after marriage, as her family was going to marry her to someone of the same religion. He said he would marry her if she came back after marriage. I thought he had already played with me and now with the new girl, so one day I shared the screenshot of our chat with the new girl, saying, “He doesn’t love you, and he will leave you like he left me.” Then, the guy got angry with me and said, “I shared everything with you, thinking you were a good friend, but you did this to me.” I cried a lot and felt guilty. He is my only friend; he is my everything, but he betrayed me, which I never deserved. I loved him from the bottom of my heart.

The very next day, he called me again and said he broke up with his new girlfriend because he saw her with another guy. The girl didn’t break up with him when I shared the screenshots with her. I hated that girl because, instead of talking to me, she blocked me. My boyfriend said she knew everything about him, including all his past relationships, but he didn’t know about her. Then again, for a few months, they didn’t have any contact, and that girl left the city. Even when she was here, her sister used to talk to him. Before leaving the city, she came to meet him and stayed one night there.

Now, on social media, she is posting everything, which indirectly shows it’s for him. I think she will come back. I confessed my love to him, but he said we would only be good friends. But I don’t want to lose him. If the girl comes back, he will definitely change again because I know, even though she cheated on him, he will go back to her. She is his type of girl-tall, fair, good health, personality, rich, well-groomed-and he always makes jokes about my short height. I belong to a very poor family, so I wear very cheap clothes, no jewelry, and never enjoy life because of money. ~ Anonymous

Question: I want to break up with him now, but I will be completely alone. Not a single person is my friend here in this new city.

1. Break up with him now
2. Go with the flow and don’t think about the future