This story is about my ex-boyfriend (we dated for about a year), and one day, out of nowhere, he broke up with me over a message. He was a friend I had known for 7 years, and he had been pursuing me for a long time, so I decided to give him a chance. We started the relationship, and everything was fun and good. He even introduced me to his brother and sister-in-law within the first month of dating. After 4 months, I asked him where he saw our relationship going, and he had no answer, saying he wasn’t sure.
His brother also mentioned that their mother might have issues with the relationship. After that, he started acting weird, no longer caring the way he did at the beginning. I kept asking about the status of our relationship, and eventually, he spoke to his parents about marriage but I felt like it was all due to pressure, as I had told him that I was going to break up with him because the relationship wasn’t going anywhere. He went on an office trip to Jakarta and, while there, even messaged one of his exes to hang out because he was bored.
This all happened after he had supposedly told his family about our relationship. After that, I tried to break up with him multiple times, but he would cry every time, saying, “I can’t live without you,” and the same old excuses. Being foolishly in love, I forgave him every time. Then, he went to Bangalore to visit his brother, and while he was there out of nowhere he broke up with me over text, saying his parents weren’t agreeing to our relationship.
This was a complete shock because just a week before his Bangalore trip, he was crying in front of me, saying he couldn’t lose me. Then, suddenly, he made this decision without even asking me anything. For the first month, I was just crying and questioning my self worth. After that, I made his life hell because I wanted to know the truth about what had happened in Bangalore. The conclusion I came to was that his parents wanted him to go for an arranged marriage, where they could get a big dowry.
He admitted that he was manipulated by their thought process because his family was only interested in the money they could get from the marriage. They believed that in a love marriage, their financial demands wouldn’t be met. After that, I never spoke to him again. But here’s the takeaway for all the girls out there: Please don’t waste your time on cowardly boys. If he’s not respecting you, it means he doesn’t want to respect you.
Also, I’ve since found a really nice guy who comes from a great family, is grounded and humble, and has been committed to me from day one. After reading so many similar stories, I wanted to share mine for girls who are struggling with this kind of situation. Please don’t settle for guys like this! They’re just making fools of themselves and wasting your time. If something isn’t happening, it’s because God wants you to have a better life partner. Stay blessed.