We were in a 2.5 years long live in relationship. He was the greenest flag guy you could find. Everything was perfect. We were super compatible and had everything planned for the future, from finances to how we would lead our lives. We told our respective families, and due to caste differences, my family didn’t agree at first, but his family said okay. I convinced my family to at least meet him and his family once.
They met, and my family liked them, but due to societal pressure and fear, they were taking time to make a decision. Gradually, his parents also started looking for other girls for an arranged marriage. We decided to fight harder, so I continued convincing my parents and fighting at home. Due to jobs, we had to move to different cities, and one day, out of nowhere, he said it wouldn’t work anymore, and we should end the relationship.
I was confused by the sudden change. Shortly after, he removed me, my family, and my friends from all his social media. Then, one day, I received a forwarded photo from a friend he was engaged. I was devastated. My world came crashing down. He didn’t even tell me. All this happened while I was still fighting at home to marry him, not speaking to my parents for months (and they were about to say yes). I finally understood why, a few weeks earlier, he had been asking me to break up.
When I confronted him, he started crying, saying he couldn’t handle the family pressure and had to go through with it. He said he hid it from me because he didn’t want to hurt me. He even said he still loves me. I forgave him, and we continued being friends, but sometimes emotions would overflow, and we would tell each other how much we still loved each other. He would say he’s not happy with the engagement and doesn’t like the girl.
I offered him the option to break off the engagement if he’s truly unhappy, and we could get married. But I doubt he’ll do it. What should I do? Both my parents and the love of my life have let me down. Should I continue being in contact with him? I’m not happy. My mental health has been badly affected. I overthink about him and his fiancée all day, and I can’t move on. My life is a mess now.
It’s better if you move on when your boyfriend is not ready to be back with you or if he is married.
When he is ready to be apart because of his family pressures, you should be strong to move on from your side too.
I can understand your situation of choosing a way, but this is life you have to accept it and you might find a better person.
Apologies if I said anything wrongly.