I was in a relationship with a guy for two and a half years. During this time, we were very happy. Sometimes we fought, but the fights were resolved quickly because most of the time, he would apologize. He’s very clever; in any argument, he would lead the discussion in a way that made me agree with him. However, as time passed. One day, my parents started looking for matches, so I revealed that I wanted to marry him.
There were so many obstacles. First was caste- convinced them to agree to a different caste. Second was financial status. They don’t own any property or a home, so if I marry him, I would need to work continuously to support the family and face financial struggles. Then there were family responsibilities, he has a younger sister, and if I marry him, her marriage and the care of his parents would also become my responsibility (along with my own parents since I’m an only daughter).
I was okay with all these challenges because of the love we share. He respects women, and I felt he could understand me and support me through tough situations, so I wanted to proceed with marrying him. However, his father has a 60 lakhs loan. Sometimes, I feel it’s hard to find a loving husband, so I don’t want to let him go. But my parents think I’m foolish for prioritizing love over financial stability.
Please share your thoughts on this. Now, here comes the main issue is astrology. When we met the astrologer for marriage, he said it’s a very bad match. My parents have consulted almost 8 or 9 astrologers, and all of them said it’s a bad match and advised against the marriage. In the kundali matching, we scored 17 out of 36, while 18 is the minimum requirement.
Our nakshatra and rasi do not match, and our “animals” are a snake and a mongoose, which astrologers say will always fight and want to kill each other. They say we either won’t stay together and will separate due to differences after marriage, or worse, one of us might die if we marry each other. Now, because of the “mismatch in horoscope/astrology,” my parents won’t agree to the marriage.
They’re pressuring me to marry another guy with a compatible match. My parents won’t accept him, and he doesn’t want to leave our relationship. I feel trapped in between. I can’t abandon my parents to take his side. I can’t use astrology as a reason to leave him. What should I do?