I am a 31-year-old woman, known my husband for 6 years, and have been married for 4 years. Honestly speaking, nothing was good from the very beginning. Our relationship started with him proposing and me taking time to accept, but it started with good friendship, and then I did fall in love and was very loyal.
He was always busy with work. We did have a lot of fights, and I had thought of leaving him, but I couldn’t. He was my only boyfriend who turned into my husband.
After marriage, things fell apart. I fell into depression, tried to end my life, and even decided to divorce, but our families got us together again as he confessed he still loved me, even though the truth was he stayed because of society.
I came out stronger after depression and took my life into control. Things slowly started falling into place, and we had a daughter. Even though everything looked better from the outside, our relationship was still bad. The thought of divorcing him is still on my mind. Physically, he is hardly involved with me, doesn’t want to go out with me, or anything else. I am just here to cook, clean, and appear as married for society.
In society, people say he is very hardworking. His mother controls our life too, tries to control me, but it doesn’t work out, and he fights. We stay happy in front of people, but at home, we don’t even look at each other’s faces. I doubt if he has an affair or if he is even into women. My daughter, office work, and housework are everything I do. These help me take my mind off him, but the minute he enters the home, everything comes rushing back.
He just goes to his farm and comes back late. I even shifted for him, making compromises in my job. After the baby, even though I work, I struggle financially. There is no love, no support, no care or concern. It looks like he only loves his daughter, giving her a kiss every day.
But I have started feeling there is no need for him in my life. It’s the same with or without him. After my daughter, I am genuinely happy, and I don’t want her to be affected by staying with him, a bad example of parents or relationships.
if u think u can take care of urself and the baby. u better end ur rltn. getting controlled by him isn’t enough his mother too joins him. leave the physical satisfaction what happiness will u get nly if ur treated as a cook and house hold worker.
discuss with someone close and decide ur future.
and try selecting someone who doesn’t need u just for physical fun cause a lot of people might be rdy to take advantage of ur situation