Confession of Girl about insecurities with her partner

We’ve been together for 6 months. He’s a decent guy, and he has treated me fairly well all this time, but sometimes I feel like his actions don’t align with what he says about me or our relationship. When we first started dating, he would often impersonate being a woman or a girl (like a Hijra). I laughed a lot because he did it so effortlessly, which was amusing, but sometimes it would go too far, and I would ask him to stop. This didn’t just happen once. It happened almost every single day we spent together. I didn’t see it as anything other than a joke meant to make me smile or him just being funny.

Even when I confronted him because it got too intense and almost annoying, he would always say he made such jokes solely to make me laugh and nothing more. I seriously questioned him a few times if he ever thinks about his same gender, even in the smallest way, or is attracted to them sexually. Of course, his answer was always the same: “No.” I feel bad whenever I question him about his sexuality because he says it makes him feel bad when I doubt him over jokes he created just to make me laugh or lift my mood.

Fast forward to the present situation, he doesn’t do those imitations anymore, not as often as before, likely due to his busy academic schedule. But recently, there’s a guy at his institution that he became friends with, and for some unknown reason, this guy calls him twice, thrice a day who knows, maybe even more than that. I know it should be normal since it’s a new institution and it’s good to make friends, but my concern is that this guy is way too sweet with him. He persistently insists that my boyfriend come to class, even when he’s sick and can’t make it. He calls him in the afternoon and evening on holidays, not to discuss anything important, but to ask if he’s eaten dinner and if he’s well. This isn’t something I’ve seen him do with his other friends, with whom he has much better relationships.

Weirdly, I’ve noticed that my boyfriend responds to all these concerns from this new guy as well. His voice becomes softer and subtly giggly when he talks with him or chats with him. It almost seems like it’s not just platonic, but something else, because as I said, I know his relationships with his other male friends, and they are very different from how he speaks with this new guy. I haven’t confronted him about this guy yet. When I ask him about it, he just brushes it off, saying, “I don’t know why he calls me so often either.”

I know I shouldn’t assume anything, but my instincts say otherwise, and I’m afraid. He swears he’s madly in love with me and says he’s ready to do anything for me (though he hasn’t even gotten me a flower once in these six months). But he does other sweet things for me, and I’m afraid. He swears he’s madly in love with me and says he’s ready to do anything for me (though he hasn’t even gotten me a flower once in these six months). But he does other sweet things for me, and I value emotional intimacy, so I’ve let it slide, though I wish he’d buy me flowers-who doesn’t love flowers, right?

I’m confused, though. How does anyone know if someone is a closeted gay man? I know it’s almost an impossible question, but if anyone has any ideas, please help me out!~Anonymous