Confession of Girl feel in love with Fitness Coach

I have a boyfriend who is 2 years younger than me. He is 26 now. He works as a fitness coach at a reputable place and is planning to build his career in the fitness field. He is very knowledgeable, dedicated, hardworking, and passionate about his field. I really respect that about him. With all the courage I could muster, I told my family about my love for him, his career, and his family. Since it was an intercaste relationship, it was initially a huge problem. However, after a month, they agreed to meet him and his parents.

His parents are not financially well off. My boyfriend earns 70k per month and started earning recently after his internship in fitness. He has plans to pursue a master’s degree and start a business. I work in IT with a salary of 60k. I have complete trust in him that we will build a happy and fulfilled life together if we end up together.

Now, after overcoming caste, financial, and astrology hurdles, my brother has started saying things like, “We are not confident about his work. Without a proper degree and conventional education, he cannot earn enough, and you will struggle financially. We are not sure how his business will work out. Even I can run a business and earn money. Even a kirana store owner runs a business and earns. What is the difference? It’s not about money; there is no education. His family is not educated.”

He says this because my boyfriend is a fitness coach, his brother is a professional photographer, his father used to run a business but has stopped now, and his mother was a teacher but has stopped working. So, my brother questions how parents can let their children follow their passions without pushing them toward conventional education like engineering or medicine.

By the way, my boyfriend has completed a BBA online because he believes the degree might help him in his business. However, my family does not want to consider it because it is an online degree. I feel so distressed trying to explain things to my family and my brother. They are being so judgmental about his parents’ finances, his profession, and his and his brother’s education (or lack of a “proper” degree, as they see it). In their eyes, what he learns in his fitness profession-like nutrition, physiotherapy, strength, and conditioning-doesn’t count as education because there is no degree certificate for these skills.

I’m so exhausted from explaining all this. I see his potential, his knowledge, and how he strives to learn more and grow in his field, but I can’t make my family see the same because they are unable to. My brother also says things like, “How will you buy a home? What are your plans for financial stability? Will you and your kids be able to merge with us? What kind of education will you provide to your kids because school fees are high? What values will you give to your kids because his parents and family are not so educated?”

Now, if I say, “I can’t explain all these things to you; these are very personal matters, and we have our own plans for the kind of life we want to lead and how to nurture our kids,” he responds by saying, “You are very childish. You are not thinking about anything. If I’m right and you can’t explain, leave him and come to our side. Otherwise, convince me that you are right.”

I’m so drained. How can I convince him to see things from my perspective? Any suggestions?