I am a 21 years old female and have been ditched three times. In all of these relationships, I gave my 1000% (I was not physically involved with anyone; I am still a virgin). But my main point is I gave my everything. I wasted my time, my energy, my emotions, etc. And still, after loving so purely, they betrayed me. So when I read confessions by men about how deeply they loved someone, gave them the princess treatment, and still got betrayed I just want to ask below points
1. Why do you men always give your best to someone who doesn’t love you, who doesn’t care about you?
2. And even if you catch your girl cheating on you, you still beg her to stay?
3. Why don’t you ever give true love or the princess treatment to the girl who actually deserves it?
4. Why don’t you love the girl who has struggled a lot in her life, who has toxic parents, who doesn’t look extremely fair but is average in looks, who doesn’t wear makeup, who cooks very well?
5. A girl who knows how to do all the household chores, who is just perfect in everything, who knows how to treat a person with communication and care?
I know after reading this, maybe someone will think I’m crazy. But only I know the phase I have gone through and am still going through. Now I feel like yes, as my friend once told me: “Don’t love men seriously. Just do time pass with them, enjoy their money, and then block them.” I think she was right because nowadays, men only fall in love with girls who have lots of male friends (not just any male friends, but those chapri, tapori types), who party, smoke, and just have fun.
Maybe I should become that kind of person too. Because if a girl loves a man deeply with a pure heart and still gets ditched, then maybe this is the better way. Am I right, men? But still, I always think if I do time pass with someone’s feelings, how would that person feel? Now tell me, what should I do? How can I move on from all of this?
Please give your best opinion. And don’t judge me for this. It’s just how I’m feeling right now.
Hi Anandi,
There is nothing wrong regarding what you asked. Even I feel the same after giving some much attention and showing intrest girls just say that they love another person and leave them blank. The same kind of feeling was felt by me too but can’t do anything unless I find someone who suits me. I am a guy who won’t show much interest as I don’t know the reason. But still search for correct girl even after failures from other side. Hope one day may find the correct person.