I started a relationship with him in August 2023. Even before we officially began, he briefly mentioned his past, A massive 13 years relationship that he tried his best to make work. They even had their marriage fixed for last January, but just days before the wedding, a huge fight about his mother broke out, and they called it off.
At first, everything was smooth between us, with only a few typical fights here and there. But just three months into our relationship, his ex started reconnecting with his parents, and he began acting weird, constantly stressed and even drinking daily. He confessed that his parents were now pressuring him to either marry his ex or find someone else, while his ex was actively trying to win back his parents’ favor.
He told me he couldn’t mention me to his family because, apparently, I’m “not exactly wifey material.” Every fight would end with him promising he’d find a solution, swearing he couldn’t lose me. This went on for five months, during which I learned more than I ever wanted to about his past. After enduring all this, I finally broke things off last month. I blocked him everywhere, thinking I’d finally have some peace.
But after 10 days, he managed to reach out through a mutual friend, practically begging me to give him three more months to fix everything. He claimed he’d told his parents about me and that his ex was now blackmailing him with her so-called “suicidal tendencies.” She even agreed to live with him for three months to see if things work out, supposedly with the promise to leave if they don’t.
Now, every time we chat, he’s sneaking around his parents and hiding our conversations from his ex. I honestly feel like an idiot for still being here, but what if he’s actually being honest? I can’t help but wonder if I fell too fast, or if I’m just being played. Do I wait and risk hurting myself more, or do I move on now and risk hurting him if he’s actually genuine? Should I trust him and hold on, or am I just fooling myself here?