So, I recently got married to the love of my life, and it’s a love marriage. My husband had to struggle a lot to make me his wife because his family never wanted me. They always wanted him to marry his cousin. After a long struggle of two years, he finally managed to convince his parents, but they definitely tried their best to make him marry the cousin. However, he never gave up on me.
I still live with my parents as I haven’t moved in with him yet because the formal *Rukhsati* hasn’t taken place. I’m very worried because of a few things. Something happened while we were away for the marriage-my mother-in-law insulted my mother, not in front of everyone, but she cursed her in private over petty things, many minor things.
After that incident, when we returned, we had very little contact with his family. My husband has visited me quite a few times since then, but my mother-in-law has never spoken to my mother. Even though my mother tried to contact her, she didn’t respond. My mother, despite not being at fault, still apologized. However, my mother-in-law was very disrespectful to my parents. She implied that since we are from the girl’s side, we should be more careful and that boys always end up going back to their mothers.
She said things like, *I don’t know what you’ve done to my son,*-you know, the typical desi mother-in-law behavior. It was very disrespectful.
Because of everything that has happened, I’m very worried about my future. I’m scared to go to his home and face all of this because I know it’s going to be hard for me. They are very controlling-they don’t even allow my husband to visit my home, even though we are married. Every time he visits, he has to hide it. They never wanted me, so they’re never going to like me either.
How should I navigate this situation? What should I do? I have so many thoughts racing through my mind-what if they force him into a second marriage? What if they refuse to proceed with the *Rukhsati*? What if they create new obstacles between us?
I would really appreciate some advice. My mother is also upset with me because I didn’t stand up for her and didn’t hold my mother-in-law accountable. But I was nice to her only because my husband asked me to be. My mother-in-law used to talk a lot of shit about her older son’s wife to my mother when they were friends. She used to say awful things about her. She wants to control the entire house and have everything her way.
Now, I don’t know how to survive a love marriage. What should I do? I would really like some advice for my future.
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