I had been in a relationship with a guy who initially liked me, though I didn’t feel the same at first. He made efforts to win me over, and eventually, I got together with him. But there were constant fights, often over the most trivial things on his part. I thought it was just the “understanding phase,” and that eventually, the arguments would stop. He was extremely possessive and jealous. He even fought with a really good friend of mine (punched him) because of his insecurities, using my name as an excuse.
As a result, that friend and his group started hating me, not him. The fights resumed. He wouldn’t give me basic time or attention. Every time we were on a call, he would put me on hold to talk to others. Once or twice, it was fine, but it became a constant issue, and I got fed up. I would see him hanging out with his cousins and friends through his streaks, but he wouldn’t give me time, claiming he wanted to be with his family. I understand family comes first, but I just wanted one call a day.
I started losing feelings. I was exhausted from all the fights. I would cry and pour my heart out to him, asking him to understand me, telling him what I needed, but he always blamed me. Still, I chose to love him again. My studies started getting affected. I fell into depression and anxiety, barely able to cope. Не knew about my state, yet during a time when my family was facing serious issues and I was preparing for exams, he complained that I wasn’t available for him.
Of course, I had a lot on my plate, but he would just pick fights, asking what was happening to our relationship. I reassured him that we would make the best decision for both of us after the exams, but pleaded not to bring it up now or we would both fail. I couldn’t let that happen because I had seen him fail his exams the previous year, and I didn’t want that to happen again. We always texted “I love you” in our chats, and we still acted like a couple, so I didn’t realize he had started talking to another girl and was seeking emotional support from her.
After the exams, he calmly told me that we wouldn’t work out, giving family reasons. I agreed, though not with my heart, as I had promised him we would make the best decision for both of us. I always loved him. Later, I found out he confessed his feelings to that girl. I never stopped loving him, so I asked if we could try again (we had been together for almost three years). He kept me hanging one day it was yes, the next day it was no. This went on for months.
I cried so much, asking him why he was doing this. He would just say, “Don’t cry, don’t make me feel guilty.” He couldn’t choose between me and her. I had deactivated my social media accounts, and when I reactivated them, I saw he had added her. Whenever I asked to see his phone, he refused. He eventually admitted that he had met her twice, secretly. When I was completely drained, I gave up and left. Afterward, he started saying it was his fault, that he had taken me for granted and treated me like an option.
But I left. I couldn’t cry anymore. Even now, I can’t get him out of my head. I feel pain every day thinking about how the guy who once promised to marry me left me standing alone while he continued down the same path with someone else. Can you guys help me? Please share your insights.
It’s very sad that he took u granted and broken ur heart. As per my understanding just leave him and move on in your life. Have some outdoor activities and trips to get change of your mind, even though it took time that may help you.