I am a student in college. There was a person who was a topper and bullied me with his gang just because I wasn’t giving him attention. He was already in a relationship with a girl from the first year while bullying me. Later, his girl best friend competed with his girlfriend, hugged him, and cried, which made his girlfriend doubt him.
She even found out about my incident. She asked him, “Will you stay with me?” but he didn’t say anything. She left because of that argument.
Later, he continued to stalk me for two years after leaving her. He made the entire class persuade me. I kept escaping, saying that he was already in a relationship and that stalking and bullying me was wrong. But he was kind and sent other people to make me feel good about myself.
I left a friend group because they used me for money, disturbed my studies, and didn’t help when I was being stalked or bullied. In fact, they even said, “We are very happy that at least people see your face,” because I don’t wear makeup in college.
He sometimes wanted to heal my traumas, which delayed my education. Then, he and his gang started supporting me, but he still didn’t stop stalking me. He thought I was the only South Indian girl in the class and wanted to start a relationship because our cultures matched and both of us came from traditional families. I am average-looking and don’t use makeup, but he still tries for me, even though I ignore him because of his past.
His best friend is not genuine and created doubts in his past relationship. The other girl he left flirts with other guys and wears inappropriate clothes. He is from a traditional family background like me, so maybe he chose me. But he is two years younger than me, which my parents don’t agree with. He is also from another state, and I don’t know what to do.
I am writing from both points of view. Now we are applying for jobs, but he is still stuck in this and hasn’t been selected yet. So, I gave him words of assurance and shared opportunities so that he could get selected while I also apply. It is crucial for both of us.
Now I am feeling guilty, but him being in a relationship, chasing someone else, and bullying is not okay. I am in complete doubt, and sometimes it haunts me and stops me from concentrating.
Will he leave me for another, better girl if I give him a chance, just like he did before? Or should I not give him a chance? If not, please give me tips on how to focus on my career and make him forget me. I have tried many times with the help of his friends, but he is so stubborn. I should obey my parents. It is an internal turmoil.
Question: Should I give him a chance?
Option 1: Yes, give him a chance.
Option 2: No, he is toxic.
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