Hi, I am a female with a lot of dreams and aspirations. But at 25, I was pushed into an arranged marriage. Though I did not love him, I accepted the life, hoping at least he would be a good man. But the truth shattered me. He was emotionally abusive and never let me be happy. He had narcissistic tendencies and couldn’t stand it if I was happy. He isolated me from my family, and silent treatments became a way of life. On top of that, my mother-in-law was so dramatic and added fuel to the fire, extinguishing even the tiniest bit of my peace.
Meanwhile, I had two kids. My son was influenced to hate me, and a lot happened. I stepped out of the house four times, only to be sent back each time. Then, I finally decided enough was enough and have been living separately from him for the past three years. Though life was really tough, I got a job, became self-sufficient, and took care of my kids’ needs without any help from him.
Life was okay, but as fate would have it, I met a guy online. Initially, I spent time with him because he was fun to be with, and we had so much in common. Then, as days went by, he proposed to me. He is such a kind-hearted man, loves my kids-especially my daughter-and is willing to fight for me and marry me. I don’t doubt his intentions. He is one of the best men I have ever met in my life. Even my kids love him because of his caring nature.
But the issue is that he is 10 years younger than me. We don’t see the difference at all, but what about society? We both love each other, and I feel so safe and protected when I am with him. But will society accept it? The fact that I came out of wedlock is still looked down upon, so how will they accept this unconventional love?
Don’t I deserve to be happy? Should I sacrifice my love and happiness for the sake of society? Or can I marry him, come what may?
Question: Should I marry him?
No dear don’t marry
are u living ur life for urself or the society? it is ur life and ur the one to make decisions. if u think he is really capable of taking care of u and ur kids financially and happily. then u better make a decision for urself and not for the society. u stay alone. no one is gonna make a decision for u. let him make a decision from his side and if everything is fine get married.
but make a wise decision cause u alrdy suffered a lot. do not ever think about society. it is always ready to blame. dogs always bark.