I was in a four years relationship with a man I met in college. He persistently tried to impress me for three years before I finally accepted his proposal. I was an introverted girl with few friends, but he gradually became my best friend, confidant, and emotional support system. In 2021, I went through a devastating period when my brother passed away, and he was my rock, providing unwavering emotional support and helping me navigate the grief.
We were blissfully happy for three years, despite the challenges of a long distance relationship. However, things took a turn in 2023 when my parents discovered our relationship, leading to tension, conflict, and ultimately a rift between us. I stood firm and fought for our love, eventually convincing them to accept him. But his parents were staunchly opposed to love marriages, citing orthodox beliefs and cultural traditions.
My family gave him ten months to convince his parents and prepare for our engagement, but he failed to do so and began to withdraw from the relationship, citing overwhelming family and job stress. He started ignoring my calls and messages, leaving me feeling confused, distressed, and eventually, depressed. The situation escalated when he blocked me without explanation or closure, leaving me feeling suicidal, abandoned, and heartbroken.
He was a person who lacked his own opinion and the courage to open up about the problems or give me closure. Instead, he ghosted me and blamed the situation, further exacerbating my pain and confusion. The experience severely impacted my mental health, causing sleepless nights, high levels of anxiety, and panic attacks. As a result, I gained weight suddenly, leading to numerous health issues. I am now undergoing medication to reverse the damage.
I sought help, started therapy, resigned from my job, and moved back home to heal and rebuild my life. Those months were incredibly tough, but therapy helped me find the strength to move forward. By February 2024, I had closed that chapter of my life and was focusing on my own healing and growth. However, he has since tried to contact me, apologizing and seeking forgiveness, but I’m struggling to forgive him.
He broke my trust, abandoned me when I needed him most, and left me with deep emotional scars. Now, I’m confused about whether I should go back to him and try to convince his family to accept me or move forward with my life and leave the past behind. I’m torn between my lingering feelings for him and my desire to protect myself from further hurt. I’m also wondering if I should seek better closure, one that allows me to understand why he left and how he feels, or if I should focus on my own healing and move on without looking back.