I’ve been living in Bangalore for three years, working as an engineer at a top tech company. My career is on track, and I plan to marry in a few years. I’ve never had a girlfriend. Looking at today’s Gen Z culture, one thing is clear: arranged marriage feels like a gamble-you might survive or regret it for life.
As an introvert, I turned to dating apps to find a cultured, educated woman (Indian values, not Western). Over the last several weeks, I matched with many, but every single one had a past where they were sexually used and discarded by other men, followed by the most rubbish excuses. I know how most guys think-they’ll play along until they get sex. A man who truly loves you will respect you and never pressure you for sex before marriage.
And if he’s not sure about marrying you, he won’t destroy your sanctity. Isn’t this part of respecting a woman? Not like, “Oh boy, you’ve got a girl today, just fuck her… who knows if she’ll turn away tomorrow?” At least, I wouldn’t do that. Respect and loyalty for a partner should be stronger than physical desire.
I unmatched all of them because this is a dealbreaker, despite the fact that I could have easily been with them, won their trust, and used them for my pleasure. But I didn’t-because I choose not to. I date for marriage, not for hookups or time pass. How can I trust a woman with such a past?
Where are the values, morals, and loyalty? I’m staying loyal to my future wife, and I want the same in return-not someone with lingering sexual memories of an ex. Ever wondered about the cause of such high divorce rates, running away after marriage, extramarital affairs, etc.?
My Questions:
1) Should I keep looking? Are there still plenty of educated and good-looking women with a clean past? (Where and how can I find them?)
2) Should I also jump into the trash bag, forgetting my values and loyalty, because I would be stabbed in the back for sure? Forget finding a loyal one and not pay the price of staying loyal?
IMO, for a man, the thought of his woman stripping herself and letting another man enter her body is the worst possible thought.
Question: What should I do?
Option 1: Should I keep looking..
Option 2: Should I also jump into the trash bag..
this generation has a lot of people who nly hookup for fun not for relationships. if at all it’s a relation. it ends up in cheating..
getting someone who doesn’t have a past is hard but not impossible.
u might still try for someone without a bad past. bt gotta have a lots of patience.
but if ur matured enough u can accept someone who has a past, but stays loyal in the future.
do not spoil ur ethics
all the best