I am a 30 years old government doctor working in a rural area. I come from a below middle class family. My father is a clerk in state road transport, earning less than 15,000 per month after deductions due to loans and poor financial planning. Witnessing my parents hardships motivated me to study hard. I completed my education in government schools and colleges and lived in a hostel from age 9 to 28.
Due to financial constraints, I joined a government job after completing my MBBS, cleared our debts with my salary, and recently funded my sister’s marriage. I am now preparing for the NEET PG 2025 specialization entrance exam. My parents are pressuring me to marry, particularly my father, who prefers a female doctor for financial security. He believes that having two incomes will prevent future hardships.
Currently, we have no debts or assets. Many doctor marriage matches are rejecting me because I am not a specialist and we lack assets. My father will retire in three years by that time, I aim to complete my specialization and improve my financial situation. Personally, I am not in a rush to marry.
Recently, a 22-year-old girl from my village proposed to me. She discontinued her studies due to personal issues. I advised her to focus on her studies due to personal issues. I advised her to focus on her education and mentioned our age difference and my financial situation. Despite this, she remains persistent and seems genuine.
I am confused because the doctor matches I seek are rejecting me, while I find non-medical matches unsatisfactory in behavior or appearance. Sometimes, I consider the 22-year-old girl as a better option because she loves me, looks good, and is willing to continue her studies. However, I worry about potential behavior changes after marriage and financial struggles if I am the sole breadwinner. My friends suggest I reject the village girl and marry a better option because she loves me, looks good, and is willing to continue her studies.
However, I worry about potential behavior changes after marriage and financial struggles if I am the sole breadwinner. My friends suggest I reject the village girl and marry a doctor during or after my specialization training. My parents are feeling sad if I say I need more time for marriage and are pushing me to marry as I am already 30.
I haven’t told my parents about the love proposal.