We got to know each other through our mutual friends. After a few months, we started dating. We were both busy with our lives he was training at the IMA, and I was preparing for my government job exams. So we didn’t have much time to talk, usually just 5-7 minutes before his training in the morning and evening.
I understood that, as an army cadet, he was busy and didn’t have time to talk, so I had no complaints. I started organizing my schedule and activities according to his so that I would be available whenever he called. Everyone does this for their partners if they love them or are deeply involved with them. Everything was going well until I behaved and did everything the way he wanted me to. He came home for his winter break, and we met; it was then that I realized how much I had fallen for him.
During that holiday break, he told me he was going to Chandigarh to meet some old friends and would see me on the way. However, he lost his phone on the train and somehow contacted me through a stranger’s phone, asking me to meet him at the railway station. I went to meet him, and he told me his phone was stolen but he still needed to go meet his friends, so I gave him my phone and returned home. We planned to spend a few days together after his Chandigarh visit.
The next day, he came back and asked to meet, but I felt something was different. He said we had to cancel our plans because of an emergency and that he would return in a few days. He was acting strangely, but I didn’t say anything. Then, by accident, I noticed some love bites on his neck while he was adjusting his jacket. I was shocked and didn’t know how to ask or confront him about it. I went back to my PG and checked the phone I had given him. I found that all the call and chat details from the last two days had been deleted, but I did find a screenshot of a chat where someone had shared a hotel address in Chandigarh. I checked the number, and it was saved under his ex’s name-the same ex he had told me was no longer in contact with him and had married someone else.
I had no idea what to do or how to approach the situation. I didn’t confront him and continued to behave as I always had. After a week, he asked me to meet for New Year’s, but I declined, saying I was going home. That was the first time I didn’t act according to his wishes, and he was shocked because he never expected me to say no. He got upset, and I asked for a break and some time away from the relationship.
The next day, I contacted that girl, and she told me they had been dating even before my relationship with him started. I felt like I had come between their relationship, and the worst part was that she told me she wasn’t married and that they had never broken up. It was a roller coaster of emotions as I realized everything he had told me was a lie. I asked her not to tell him about our conversation because I wanted to confront him in person.
I called him and told him to meet me before his winter break ended. We met the next day, and I handed him my phone, asking about the screenshot. He was shocked and claimed that other friends were there too and they had all just met at the hotel. I called that girl in front of him, and he immediately cut the call and apologized.
He said he didn’t want to be with that girl, but because she had been with him for many years, he didn’t want to break her heart. I felt like crying but held back in front of him. I broke up with him that day and told him never to contact me or appear in front of me again. He returned to his training after a few days and repeatedly asked for forgiveness. I changed my phone number and blocked him on all social media.
It’s been 4 years, and I’ve tried my best to move on from that relationship and those memories. But a few months ago, he asked one of our mutual friends for my number and contacted me.
He said he wants my forgiveness and asked me to marry him. He told me he broke up with that girl the same day I left the relationship. Now he’s saying that he tried his best to move on but can’t live without me. He even told his parents about me and is asking me to marry him. But I can’t do it; I can handle anything except disloyalty. Please advise me on how to handle this situation in the best way.
once broken heart cannot be releived of that pain. still if u give chance to someone like that.then u might regret ur decision later. after these many years you don’t know what had happened between them. once told that be broke up,but still maintained a relation with her. same might happen In the future.
u better stay strong the way u did all those years when he left you.
hope u make a better decision