Confession of Sachin about his Relationship with Cousin

I met my second cousin at the age of 25 at an event. I had seen her at some family functions earlier but never had any interactions or conversations with her-zero contact in the last 25 years. I only knew she was my cousin, and that was it.

The issue now is that we both fell in love with each other. Initially, it took us a long time to accept our feelings, as it felt strange, and in our community, this is not allowed. We had never seen such cases before.

After doing extensive research, we discovered that this situation is normal, that things like this happen in the world, and that it’s legally allowed. Even in our community, similar cases exist, but those involved gave up on love and married someone their parents chose. The main reason this isn’t encouraged is due to genetic concerns (the risk between second cousins is almost the same as that of unrelated couples). However, people have misunderstood this, linking it to their pride and respect in society.

Why would anyone intentionally fall into such a situation? In our case, we had no brother-sister bond or feelings-it was neutral. When I met her, she was just a stranger to me. Even after accepting our feelings, we tried to move on, but we couldn’t.

We then decided to tell our parents that we wanted to get married. Unsurprisingly, they didn’t agree and are completely against it. We tried to make them understand our situation, but they are not willing to listen. We’ve been trying to convince our parents for the last 1.5-2 years.

From the beginning, we were determined not to elope or marry without our parents’ approval. But now, as time passes, it’s becoming increasingly difficult, especially since it’s a long-distance relationship.

My girlfriend sometimes says she’s ready to get married against our parents’ wishes, but she only says this when she’s frustrated with the situation. Despite everything, I can’t abandon my parents, nor can I live without her. I don’t know what to do now. Please guide me.