I’m 30 and once loved a girl who was my classmate. During our postgraduate classes, we barely spoke, just exchanged greetings. But three years later, we met again on a trip organized by our mutual friends. We didn’t talk much then either, but two months later, at a friend’s wedding, our friends insisted we get to know each other. We ended up talking and reminiscing about our university days.
After our first real conversation, she started liking me, and I began liking her too. We met several times, even planned trips together. Within a month, she encouraged me to express my feelings, and eventually, I did. We exchanged gifts and met regularly.
But things changed when she asked for a home near her office and a bigger car. My family and I were busy renovating our ancestral property, so I asked her for her preferences on a room I was building.
She shared her ideas, and we continued to plan for the future. However, when she told her parents about me, they didn’t approve. Her mother asked questions like, “If the boy earns more than you, will you be able to live where he lives now?” and similar ones. She answered “no” to all of them, but still said she’d try to save the relationship. The next day, she blocked me on Instagram and WhatsApp. When I tried reaching out, she said, “I’ve tried my best, but apni family ke liye majboor hun.”
Two months later, I packed her gifts and gave them to a friend. The colleague told me she had already moved on. My friend passed the gifts to her, and when I reached out, she unblocked me briefly. I asked her, “Kaha gaye humare wo sab plans? Tumne aisa kyu kiya?”
She only replied, “Mere mami-papa nahi maane,” and then said goodbye.
Since then, she never contacted me. After the breakup, I didn’t get much support from my married friends. Two years later, I saw her wedding photo. I’m still single and have lost interest in everything, while she’s happy and enjoying her life. I’m just looking for closure, but it seems like I’ll never get it.