I wanna say something, and I don’t know how many people are actually gonna understand it, but still, I’ll say it. I know a lot of people will be like, “Bro, you’re just 18, what do you even know? You’ve got time, don’t overthink things,” and all that stuff. And yeah, I get that. But if those same people were 18 right now, like in 2025 this version of the world, not back in 2005 or 2010 then they’d know what I’m talking about. Because I am really scared.
Even back in school, things didn’t feel right. I saw relationships happening in 8th, 9th standard, and they weren’t innocent or sweet they were intense, sometimes even toxic. People getting involved too deep, too fast. And now in college, it’s even worse. I’ve met so many people, and I honestly can’t relate to most of them. Most guys are out here talking about hookups, smoking, drinking, flexing body counts like it’s some sort of status symbol. It’s all about partying, one night stuff, fake stories to look “cool,” and I’m just sitting there like, what are we even doing?
I’ve even had girls tell me I’m boring, I’m not fun, just because I’m not into that whole scene. Like just because I’m not out here acting wild, suddenly I’m not good enough? That stuff spreads around college, and yeah, now people label me like I’m different. And maybe I am I’d rather be that than fake. And the worst part? Everyone’s just out here trying to use each other. Most people aren’t even looking for a connection – they’re just looking for a body part, for validation, or just for “fun.” And I hate that. Like seriously, I hate this whole hookup culture.
I hate breakups. Like, is it really a flex to have an ex?! That’s why I don’t want just anyone. And this is the stuff that makes me scared of relationships. See, I’m not against relationships. In fact, I want to be in one. But a real one a proper one. Where it’s not just about showing off on Instagram or texting “I love you” 24/7, but actually being there for each other. Supporting each other. Building something real. That’s the kind of relationship I want. But I don’t know if I’ll get that.
Because the truth is, people change. Someone might act amazing for months or even years, and then one day, it’s like you don’t even recognize them. And that’s what scares me. What if I give my 100% and she doesn’t? What if I stay loyal, real, and serious, and she’s just pretending? That fear just eats me up. Yeah, I know people say you should choose your partner wisely. But bro, in this generation, how do you even know who’s real and who’s faking it? Changing character is literally a trend now.
One day it’s all “I’ll never leave you,” and the next day they’re gone or worse, they stay but become a completely different person. And it’s not just about love either. I want a partner. A teammate. Someone strong, independent, who knows what she wants in her life. I don’t want someone who’s lost and waiting to be “completed.” I want someone who’s building herself, and we build together. I wanna support her dreams, and I want her to push me toward mine too. I want to grow with her.
I want to hear what she wants out of life and actually be part of helping her get there that kind of connection. And yeah, I’ve already started working on myself. I’m doing my Bachelor’s degree, I’m pursuing ACCA, and I’ve been freelancing, working small gigs, even exploring Al to make some income. I didn’t wanna keep asking my parents for money even though they give me what I need it just feels odd to keep depending on them. I wanna earn. I wanna stand on my own two feet.
But all this effort I’m putting in it’s not just for me. I want to share this journey with someone. Not someone to just sit and watch, but someone who walks beside me. Who believes in us the way I do. The thing is I want love. Real love. But I’m scared. Because in this generation, finding something pure, loyal, deep… feels like searching for water in a desert. And I don’t know if it still exists. I know I have fumbled, but this came from my heart not overthinking, just lost.
This isn’t a poll I just wanna know the responses on what I should really do. Thanks, and have a great day.