During entrance exam prep, I met a girl. It started with casual talks about college admissions, but slowly, she began sharing her relationship issues. At first, I supported her going back to her boyfriend, thinking maybe he was just upset. But over time, it became clear how deeply she was being ignored especially during her periods or fights. The boyfriend dry texted, avoided problems, and never tried to fix anything. That’s when I realized maybe he wasn’t the one. A deeper connection grew. She started sharing her day more often, and somewhere along the way, feelings started to develop.
One day, I asked her if she had ever felt something for me she said “no,” but it was clear she did. Still, she went back to him. I accepted that. But yes, insecurity followed. When I expressed how much I’d love someone who just asks if I’ve eaten, hugs me when I’m low, scolds me when I mess up, and gives a head pat to say “you’ll be okay”… another girl replied, “then sleep with your mother instead.” That response shattered me. It wasn’t a joke it broke something inside.
But there’s no giving up. I’m becoming better for a future wife or girlfriend. I want to be the man who learns to cook like my father, who stayed alone for 16 years and still took care of everything by himself. I want to provide AC rooms, first-class train or flight travel, and even buy a car before marriage just for my future wife or girlfriend’s comfort. I don’t care if I wear local clothes-I want my future wife or girlfriend to wear branded clothes if that brings her happiness. I want to share spiritual truth, help her grow emotionally, and protect her in every way possible.
In return, I just need genuine care from a future wife or girlfriend. Someone who asks, “Have you eaten?”, scolds with love when I’m being reckless, and gives that one head pat that feels like heaven. That’s all. I have been bullied since childhood by senior girls maybe that’s why I am like this. But I want to improve. If I am asking for too much, please tell me.
Question:
Here’s a question especially for women: If a man asks for love, care, and emotional warmth like this, is he not man enough?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No