I am a 31 years old man with a stable job, searching for a life partner through an arranged marriage setup. It has been three years, but I haven’t found anyone. I come from a very decent and good family. My parents have raised their children well, they are wonderful human beings. I have an elder sister who is mentally challenged, and I love her a lot. She is 35 years old now, and I have the responsibility of taking care of her.
Whenever a marriage proposal comes, we always make sure to be transparent with the girl’s family about our situation. However, it seems that many parents today do not want their daughters to marry into a family where there is such a responsibility. I don’t blame anyone for this, but my parents believe this is the reason I am facing difficulties in finding a match.
My parents and siblings have gone through a lot of hardships and struggles since childhood because of my sister’s condition. Now, I fear that if my future wife cannot adjust to our family, it might lead to conflicts, which would deeply hurt my parents. They are already burdened with enough worries about my sister, and I don’t want to add to their stress if my marriage fails.
I also fear losing my connection with my parents after marriage. They always tell me not to worry about my sister, but my heart doesn’t agree. I know my responsibilities. All these worries make me question whether I should get married at all. I don’t want to ruin a girl’s life by bringing her into a situation where she may not be happy. I just want a partner who will support me through thick and thin, but the fear of my marriage failing always lingers in my mind.
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